Together a long time, married, 1dc. I'm done. Breakup should be amicable as these things go, though certainly devastating for a while. I earn piss all but we have a lot of equity in our house so once things are split I should be ok financially, just about.
Do I
-tell him right now that I've decided it's over
-grin and bear it through Christmas seeing extended family, tell him after that
-make a plan, including somewhere to move to (v difficult financially), then tell him?
Hoping to split things down the middle, though as it'll be me moving out and starting from scratch I'll ask for more of the furniture and stuff. Who decides how much the house is worth when you get a divorce? What happens financially in the meantime?
Help from those who've been there would be much appreciated.