Anyone else not spending Xmas with the DC?

[HoHoHomeTimeFinally]

My ds is spending Christmas with his DF. He will be back Boxing Day and we’ve got a second Christmas planned, dinner at my mums and a pantomime which will be lovely. This will be the 4th Xmas since me and his DF split but he has always been with me on the actual
Day then his dads Boxing Day. But he’s getting older (7) and has a really good relationship with his dads family. He sees his father 3 weekends out of 4, his dad is very involved and he is going to have the best day which is what matters. I have a lovely day planned too so won’t be alone but I have felt teary all day and it just feels flat.

I know he’ll have the best time and it’s what’s best for him but I still feel sad. Is anyone else in the same boat?

I'm in the same boat. My DS moved in with his DF and has decided to pretty much go NC with me for absolutely no good reason other than the fact he is a teenager and his father is poisoning his mind but that's another story. This will be the first time iv not seen him or at least heard from him at xmas and I'm desperately sad. Trying to be normal for my other DC but it's hard.

Not in the same boat but sending you hugs. It's great he has a good relationship with his dad and you sound like a fantastic mum . Tomorrow will fly by and you can recreate the atmosphere boxing day.
I'm feeling teary today for different reasons.

Yes, me. It'll be my first Christmas without them and I'm feeling quite sad. They will be sleeping here tonight, so at least I get to give them their stockings and presents in the morning, so I'm trying to focus on that (and Boxing Day which will be a second Christmas Day).

Me. Mine is with her father, comes home next weekend. We alternate and have done for years, so I'm kind of used to it, crap as it is.

to everyone in the same boat. I’m wide awake now listening to my BF snore and wondering if DS is awake? I’ll FaceTime him at 8 though and he’ll be home in just over 24 hours.

Merry Christmas to you all, hope it goes as well as it can and remember we’re doing the right thing for our dc’s

DD is at her dad's too. The first year we alternated was tough. Now i have my own traditions just for myself, and I actually really enjoy my 'grown up' christmas and feel I have the best of both worlds. We do christmas later in the week from scratch including Christmas eve. Several family members works in a supermarket so they also get more of a break a few days after Christmas which is nicer than squeezing it in between their finishing at 9pm Christmas eve and starting back at 6am boxing day shifts.

DD will have a good time with her dad and she'll soon be back. Watch, what you want, eat what you want without having to share and just relax being a single aren't is tough. I also browse the sales that start today and order any gifts that have reduced in price that Dd has mentioned but we're too expensive full price. I'm also one of those annoying eople that shop on boxing day and nip to boots to get DDs stocking fillers once the reduce them.

I told exdp I would ring at 8 to speak to ds, but he’s not answering . @HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime your Christmas Day sounds lovely