I was seeing someone casually for about a year. We were both quite happy, both free to date others and both said we were single. Unexpectedly we ended up getting very close, presumably because we saw each other a lot.
Then unexpectedly one day in the summer he left and said he was going to be with his ex partner. Except when I did some searching on social media it turned out he had given me a fake name and he was with her but working away the whole time I knew him.
From that moment I stopped speaking to him, moved on, decided I wanted a proper boyfriend which I have now. So all good and resolved for me.
However, I'm a bit bothered for his poor partner. I was shocked when I saw photos of them together at weddings, holidays etc. all at times when he would have been seeing me on other days. Hes obviously very good at lying and cheating! I feel sorry for this woman and wish she realised what he is really like before she gives him more time - he is living in her city flat now, with her children etc. He may well be a cocklodger.
I dont want repercussions for me if I were to make contact with her, who knows how he would react and I know it isnt really my problem. She looks like a really nice person though and I know im not to only one he cheated with (as I say, wasnt an issue to me as I thought we were both single and I was dating others too). Would you want to know if you were her?