My friend for a very long time has asked me to be her bridesmaid a year ago. I was absolutely thrilled. She has asked me and another girl who she has been friends with since school. I know my friend from uni so me and other girl don’t really know each other. Have met once for a wedding fair the bride wanted to go to back in February Was all nice and lovely. Got talking about hen do, I asked her (the bride) how she wanted her hen sorting did she want me and other maid to do it together or someone take charge. She said she wanted other maid to be in charge and me to help out. Fair enough other maid lives closer to her and known her longer. Talked about ideas etc that weekend.
Fast forward a few weeks and I text other maid saying if there is anything she wanted me to do. I got no reply. I text again a few weeks later and she said she was thinking about it. I text again over the summer when I had a bit more time on my hands and got no reply again. I met with bride at another friends wedding in September and she asked me if other bridesmaid had sorted her hen yet as she had told bride it was all sorted. I know absolutely nothing about this. I said to bride she may well have sorted it but I don’t know anything about it. I text bridesmaid again a week after conversation with bride and had a reply to say she would be in touch the following day. Nothing again.
The wedding is in April. I’m concerned my friend isn’t going to have a hen do. At what point do I say to bride that nothing has been organised? She is stressing already about wedding and I don’t want to add to stress but equally don’t want to let her down. I’m also due to give birth To my first baby three weeks before her wedding so kind of want to be organised!
Can I have your thoughts please?