If you have a shit parent .... JOIN:)

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I need somewhere to of load with people that understand!

My DM has once again put my drug addict sister before me and my feelings! She never comes to see us, hardly texts unless I text first! Honestly makes me feel like shit 🤦🏻‍♀️

Maybe she just thinks dsis just needs her more? Maybe you're coping better?

singlenotsingle shouldn’t make a jot of difference to if the op is ‘coping’ or not. Children shouldn’t be made to feel like the Oliver Twist of the family.

OP, I feel you, my DM is besotted with my sister and her child. I’ve given up, will probably visit tomorrow with a bunch of flowers. But apart from that, I consider my duty done.

@Singlenotsingle my sister is a long time addict and my DM is raising her kids she cut her of a couple of years ago because she didn't make effort with them and was toxic but she just can't help herself!

@BlueCookieMonster its the shit excuses I can't put up with! 'She has presents for the kids' if DH wasn't in the area and had popped in to pick something up she would never have told me! Its just sly and I hate that. I do so much but it will never be good enough, My feelings will never be put first 🤷🏻‍♀️ I cannot understand mothers like that, I have 2 children and they will both ALWAYS be treated equal and loved the same 😣 xx

Sometimes you just need to moan, OP, I get you. My DM isn't shit but is passive aggressive and controlling at times. Going to see her all day Boxing Day but she told me today that she wants us to come to her house tomorrow too so DD (18 months) can open a Christmas Eve present. I said we already had plans and got a load of passive agression for my trouble. "It's never good timing for you, is it Claus?" Etc. Etc. Because I didn't immediately say we'd drop everything to answer the summons.

@TheClausSeason oh god sounds like my MIL except she would then go on to tell is to set of an hour before we was going to so we could 'pop in' 🤣 I tell DH all the time ... at least our parents have taught us what NOT to do when it comes to parenting our children 🥴 xx