ds wants to wear dresses and high heels

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My 7yo ds has always liked sparkly things, pretty things etc. but recently has asked for high heels (apparently to play a special hero who throws heels at the baddies) I told him im not buying him any ( not because hes a boy but because hes too young) but he can play with mine.

he came down in his sisters dress yesterday, and then again today. and he has been wearing those heels (inside) at any opportunity.

I think he wants to actually wear them as opposed to just dressing up and being silly.

Im fine with whatever he wants to wear (although don't want him to get teased) and actually I think its a good thing that he can be himself and still wear 'girls' clothes instead of thinking he has to actually BE a girl.

But what do I say to him? he makes out hes just being silly but when I said he couldn't wear the high heels out of the house he asked if he could when he was older, but then looked sheepish.

should I just let him take the lead and if he asks for typically girls clothes then get them?

I want him to be himself and be comfortable, but I also don't want him to be picked on,

I wouldn't let my 11 year old DD wear heels so it's not a boy/girl thing. Find a half way house, what does he like about the dresses, the way they fit, the colours, the sparkle etc.

Don't say anything at all negative about it. He shouldn't wear high high heels out of the house because he'll ruin his feet at that age, but small chunky heels should be okay if the shoe is supportive enough.

He sounds like a great kid! Just tell him he can wear whatever he likes. And if you buy him the dresses and heels then they won't be girls clothes, they'll be HIS clothes.

Be prepared for bullying though, tell him some people can be cruel and others don't really experience much outside of their own bubble. But mostly just make sure he knows it's okay to be the person that he feels he is.

I get where you're at, my 6 year old can be very much this way on occasion and I do worry. But he's doing okay so far and has excellent support from the adults in his life both at home at school.

I wouldn't let him have any heels as outdoor shoes, same as I wouldn't let my DD (8 years ) if she asked. Totally impractical. Ok for playing dress up in the house.