We have had our monthly one hour visit from pils. My dh has, as normal, now sunk to an all time low.
Dh is nc with brother for 6 years. Whilst they were here, mil took a call from her other dil, gushing about Christmas, all whilst DC were singing a song from their school play. She then told fil all about the phone call.
They both ignored DC, especially fil. Mil didnt react when dh told her about some health issue he is having investigated. Refused a cuppa, seemed disinterested about dc and talked about their other grandchildren and anybody else including dh cousin who is successful academically (phds and author) rather than just a masters as dh.
Again, it's made dh feel like shit again, just like it has all his life. Like saying you don't need a double bed, you'll never have a wife (before me) or I wish you were a girl, I always wanted a girl.
How do I help my dh? Our DC are starting to notice now too. It affects me too, to hear the way she spoke so lovingly on the phone to sil.