Do you spend the same on your adult children as their ohs at Christmas?

[VanessaShanessaJenkins]

I'm not talking about someone in a new relationship but if you have son in laws/daughter in laws which have been married to your son/ daughter for over 10 years do you spend the same on them as your own children or significantly less?

My parents spend the same on me and dh as far snow I’m aware. Pretty sure my MIL spends more on DH as he normally ends up with 2/3 times the number of presents I get. It’s fair enough but can get a bit awkward when he’s still opening things long after everyone else. We ask for most presents to go to DD now instead of us so our parents (and each other) are the only presents we have at Christmas these days.

Dm spends the same on do as on me and db. I think she spends less on db's girlfriend, but it's a much newer relationship.

Dmil totally ignores me and only buys for dp and our dc. I think that's a bit odd, but refuse to get my knickers in a twist over it.

My in laws give us an equal amount of cash and have since our second Christmas together, by which time we were living together.

Both my parents and PIL spend similar on each of us, and have done since if became clear we were in it for the long haul. I see it as a mark of respect for our relationship, and full acceptance of the in-law into the family.

I'll be in this situation for the first time next Christmas, as my son's getting married - my daughter (at the moment) is single. Usually I spend identical amounts on my son and my daughter, and also give them some money. I think in future I'll give the same amount to my son (to share with his wife) and my daughter, but will buy presents of the same value for each of them.

I think both my parents and in laws spend a similar amount on me and my husband.

@LuvMyBoyz
My DM does this. In fact now she only gets her great grandchildren gifts!
We stopped getting gifts off her once we had our own children, but my brothers still get a gift. She stopped getting her grandchildren gifts when they reached 18. I find it really annoying. We are still her children! It's not as if she can't afford it.

Up to now I bought DDs a lot more than their partners, but this year they've got joint vouchers for something special to do together, then I've bought all of them a smaller gift, but probably spent £75 on each DD and £30 on each son in law. I also have a grandson and a step granddaughter, and spend about the same on each of them. We're at that time in our lives where my DDs both earn much more than I ever did🤣🤣
I can't imagine never buying my chldren gifts.

My mum gives my DH exactly the same as my brother and me. Mil does the same, DH is an only child and I think she likes buying me things as I’m much easier to buy for than DH x

My inlaws ( now just MIL) have always spent considerably more on dh and his brother than on either DIL or indeed our dc ( the only GC) . My family have always spent the same if not more on dh than me - he’s way easier to buy for than I am .