I've lost something very valuable - how do I tell my mum?

[Nic165]

I've lost my late granny's ring. The one she gave to me before she passed, and the one my mother had always wanted. I've now realised I've lost it. I've moved house a couple of times in between last having it and it must have been lost somewhere along the way. I don't know what to do. I can't sleep thinking about how my mother is going to react and it's giving me such anxiety. I feel terrible about losing it, especially the fact it meant so much to my mother too. She has been asking why I haven't been wearing it and said she would like it if I am not going to wear it often. She said it means a lot to her and she would wear it more. What do I do?

I hope you manage to find it. This reminds me of when I lost my wedding ring. I was heartbroken. Never did find it 😔

OP your mum hasn't got much of a leg to stand on when it comes to the ring. It's your ring it was given to you. I had some precious jewellery stolen from me but you just remember that material objects are just that.
You can have a replacement made if it was insured. Your mum shouldn't be saying things like I'll have it if you don't want it it isn't hers to have.
Probably best not to mention it you already feel guilty and doesn't sound like your mum will help matter tbh.

I have a random suggestion. Years and years ago my dad lost his 30th birthday present watch. A few years ago he gave me their old laundry basket which is wicker and lined with material. As chance would have it when moving it to my house he heard a noise and lo and behold his watch, that he'd lost many years earlier, was in the lining of the laundry basket. If he hadn't moved it down the stairs to give to me it would probably still be lost!

I feel for you...I lost my nana's antique silver bracelet

My replacement engagement ring (original was stolen alongside a ring my mother had given me - and she acted like yours OP!) was eventually found in the washing machine. It had somehow got stuck ...

You're right. She will be annoyed and upset, no doubt. But I think I have built this up to something massive in my head and blown it totally out of proportion. Thank you all for your advice today!