Boob job regret... go easy on me please

[Regretitful]

All through school and uni i was size AA if that. I was totally flat. I got a fair amount of stick from guys for it. I never took my top off during sex until after I'd had surgery. Had a lot of comments about how lI'd be fit if I just had some boobs', how it 'felt like fucking a child' of course some guys were decent about it, but the ones that weren't got in my head. I had breast surgery 6 years ago and went up to a D. I was on cloud 9 and so confident and hadn't really looked back since.

Until now.. I'm not sure if it's hormonal as I've not long had my first child. But it hit me the other day when feeding him that I went and got major surgery, got myself in debt (paid off now), that I put myself through that for horrible, nasty boys. All in their late teens/early twenties themselves. I guess I used to look in the mirror and think I looked so much better, but now I look and feel really ashamed that I let them bully me into it. Indirectly of course, but I really do feel ashamed by this. Everytime I feed my gorgeous boy.

I want to have them removed. I'm more confident now, but even that fact pisses me off. I feel like they've won? It's a lot of money to get them removed. I'm not making much sense. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this so just thought I'd ramble on here. Please don't flame me.

Is it worth all the money to get them removed I guess I'm asking. Will I feel better? Or will I feel worse that I've wasted even more money on caring about those people's opinions..

Totally understand why you’re struggling with this. We know we shouldn’t let someone’s opinions of us get in our head, but it’s so hard.

TBH my attitude towards my boobs was very different whilst feeding babies so don’t make any rash decisions just yet - it may be that you change your mind once you’ve stopped BFing.

Also bear in mind that once you remove them you will be left with stretched skin, many women feel that their boobs become very ‘empty’ after BFing - you will be glad of the extra padding if that’s the case.

Maybe try to dissociate the enlargement from the bullies and make it about yourself - you’ve said you feel more confident in your body and that’s a positive.

Making yourself feel worse about your appearance won’t mean they haven’t affected you, it will just be a constant reminder to you that ‘they had a point’ (obviously they didn’t - they were little shits, but your self confidence will be telling you they were right.)

The way you win over bullies is to be happy and confident. You’re a mum to a gorgeous baby and you’re happy with yourself. There will be some huge adjustments to make with your new family but this doesn’t need to be one of them!

The latter definitely.

And I’m not a fan of cosmetic surgery generally as I really wish people could just be happy as they are, but I do understand why it might seem like the only way to be happy at the time.

Dont do anything rash. It’s probably your hormones heightening emotions.

By all means consider having them removed later in but remember you’ll then have stretched flat breasts, not the small pert breasts you’re mourning.

What you’re feeling is totally normal.

Thank you so much @RUSU92 I had a bit of a wobble after pressing post but that was a lovely response and I'm glad I did now. I needed to hear (read?) a lot of that.

Hello
Ive always had boobs but my weakness at school was chunky legs and still is, If there had been some type of surgery available to me and i could have paid for it I would have done it.
I was not teased mercilessly, but the odd comment hurt and I was always the bigger girl n the group/class.
I was really quite beautiful in my day but you never really appreciate the good things about your body wen you have them but focus on the bad bits.

You without doubt did have and have now good bits about you, which could be as simple as lovely skin, full shiny hair, really good teeth, etc which other people see and comment on.
~So what i am says is, at a time when you felt different, not “perfect” you found a way to change yourself, to fix a bit of yourself which at the time was causing you some anguish,

Do not beat yourself up for a decision you made when young, a decision which was in some part forced upon you by the opinions of others who you now know to actually mean nothing, to not count for anything. But this is because you have grown up and now value yourself by a different set of standards.
Do not regret this now. Life your life as fully as you can with pride

Aw, girl, you're having a crisis! 🌹

Yy those VILE boys said unforgivable things - but most women struggle with being 'small'.

Yy you were affected by those VILE boys but that was then and this is now, this is how it is now. Don't hurt yourself even more.

Forgive yourself. It's totally understandable why you made the decision you did back then.

Congratulations on your lovely baby. Hold on, this time of heightened emotions will pass 🌺💗

OP- don’t beat yourself up, you made a decision based on how other people made you feel - we have all done that, and then lived to regret it, BUT life is full of learning curves, if we never made ‘mistakes’ we would never learn or develop or move on.

You had a boob job and at the time it felt right, now you feel differently and that is 100 percent ok.

Your body is amazing. It truly is. And I hope you make peace with your body whatever decision you make.
FWIW I say get the implants out and learn to love your body the way the universe made it but that’s just my tuppence worth!

Also I want to address this
but most women struggle with being 'small' I completely disagree with this, and you shouldn’t normalise it! Having big breasts isn’t an indicator of how much of a woman you are, or how amazing your body is!

We are all different shapes and sizes and we are all wonderful.

I’m with all the other comments here. You are also at a very emotional time. Enjoy the baby.

Look upon it as everything else, you did for you. Take back the ownership of your breasts.

Reconsider your next move further down the line. You may full in love with your breasts all over again.

Having a baby makes you feel weird about your body, and everything really. I wouldn't make any big decisions until your baby is at least a year old, preferably 2.