Quit smoking and realised I'm just a horrible person 😩

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I'm just over 3 days in cold turkey and I'm so, so angry. please tell me it gets easier!

The other day I went to see a doctor who said I needed to quit smoking for a condition, so DH quit because I said I can't do it if he carries on. So that was it. No quit date, no countdown, just did it.

We are so angry at each other, can barely look at him and I'm so scared it's so close to Christmas that the dc will pick up us wanting to drop kick each other in the head. Please tell me it gets easier! I don't think we've ever been like this in our 15 years. It was just a 'has to be done' thing with no forethought and I'm really struggling. Fucking awful habit. That I didn't even want to give up

My husband quit and he also found it difficult. And yes the first week or two is horrendous. Snappy, quick to get upset, withdrawn etc but it gets better. It's natural for you to have an adverse reaction to withdrawal. It gets better. It's harder in your case as you're both doing it together so it's not like one of you can be extra patient towards the other. But at least you'll both hopefully be done with the worst bits at the same time.

Wishing you loads of luck, hope your health improves.

It WILL get easier.

I was a complete nightmare for about 3 weeks. So, so angry and unstable to be honest!

After that I had good and bad days for many weeks, but more good than bad.

6 years later, I haven’t touched a cigarette and never even think about it. Even after a drink or when stressed (the drinks craving thing took about a year to go away).

It’s the best thing you’ll ever do. You’ll save so much money, you’ll look better, your teeth will be whiter, you won’t stink, you won’t feel guilty or that awful self loathing knowing you are slowly killing yourself. You’ll be stronger, fitter, prettier, healthier and so bloody glad you quit .

I sympathise! I’m on day 20 and today in particular I could quite happily throttle anyone who dares to speak to me I’m sure the usual Christmas stresses are not helping as I’ve been doing and feeling ok up until now. DH is also giving up and he doesn’t seem in a much better mood either (can’t say for sure as we’ve been avoiding each other today )

Best tip I found was to count up all the money I was saving and eventually treat myself. Buying a new car certainly made me feel like it was worth the weeks of withdrawl.

Thank you for the encouragement

Its fucking horrendous. I just really don't want to ruin Christmas with my moody arse face glaring at dh. Feeling really low about it all.

Thanks mummy

Seaside glad to know you came out the other end, cannot wait until i don't automatically think I'll have one and feel that regret that I don't anymore!

Action sounds like a good plan well done, I'm dreaming about being that far!

Good tip thanks doctor's

It took three weeks for me to not want to kill someone. It was awful but once I got through those first few weeks it was fine. Just keep telling each other it's the withdrawal symptoms that are making you horrible not the fact that you hate each other.

I promise it really does get better. I quit 2 years ago in this coming January and remember the rage and sense of hopelessness if those early days well. I know how dramatic this may sound but I felt like I'd never fully enjoy anything again - nights out, first mug of tea of the day etc. But it honestly does get easier and once you're through it you won't believe you ever felt like this. I smoked for 20+ years and went from never being able to imagine my life without cigarettes, to not imagining ever wanting to light up again.

You can do this I promise. This feeling won't last. Good luck!

First week is a nightmare but it DOES and WILL get easier. Well done, day 3 is when the nicotine leaves your system so you can at least be happy in the knowledge that every day hereafter you will feel a bit better.

Its hell though, you have all my sympathy, honestly. Stay strong OP and again well done!

Do some exercise to get the irritation out - can you go for a good walk or something??? Also shouting on your own in the car helps 😂

Are you using patches? That might help tide you over Christmas. Can you persuade yourself it's a sign of how important it is that you've given up?