Anyone else struggle to cope when neighbours are playing loud music?

[LemonGingerCakes]

I can’t tune it out and I’m so tired, I just want to read quietly or watch a film or go to bed

Me I loathe it. Its entirely unnecessary. I enjoy music at home but can easily listen without inflicting it on my neighbours. Unfortunately, so many people these days think they're entitled to do exactly as they please and bollocks to everyone else

It’s now as loud as my tv (which I turned up loud to drown it out].

It’s the stress of wondering whether it’s one off (fair enough every now and then) or whether this is it now for the Christmas holiday period.

People are just so entitled

Same, I have zero tolerance for it. It makes me immediately anxious and upset.
Luckily my new neighbours are amazing and are very quiet in comparison to my old one.

I want them to stay forever!

The new bloody mortgage advert with the arsehole of a woman coming home late at night, chucking her stuff everywhere and cranking up the volume on a wall full of speakers really really gets my hackles up!

I fucking hate people who subject others to their loud music. It's always fucking rude.

I want to live in the middle of nowhere.

Oh me too.

Makes my already high anxiety go through the roof.

It's selfish behaviour.

Who DOES enjoy neighbours playing loud music.

Who DOES enjoy neighbours playing loud music.

Enjoy is the wrong word, but some people don’t seem bothered (and when I mention it shrug it off as though I’m over reacting). School's broken up. I’m shattered, the kids are shattered. I was looking forward to crashing.

A note through the door might have meant I would have changed my plans. At least I could have got into the right mood mentally. Instead I don’t know whether it’s going to stop at a reasonable time or go on late.

Anxious is exactly the word. I’m struggling anyway and this is tipping me further over the edge.

I’m trying to imagine them having a nice time oblivious to the noise they’re causing, but I just couldn’t imagine playing music so loud that I know it would be impacting on them

The advert with the new music system drives me mad as well. Camera pans past quiet houses as though they're dull and boring to the oh so exciting and happy, loud party house.

Yep. Can’t cope with it. I don’t want to hear my neighbours music and I don’t expect them to have to hear mine.

I wish I cold afford to buy a detached house. Or one with more space in between

I get the rage and go knock on our neighbours door. His is loud gaming, which sounds daft I know!
I knocked on his door at 3am, heavily pregnant in my dressing gown, he didn’t answer but turned it off ..... he let me know he had wireless headphones next time he saw me.

Tiny bit of guilt when I had a baby plagued with allergies and reflux.

Oh I feel for you it's awful as you can't get away from it and relax. Wax earplugs (unless you can feel the bass 😡😡😡)

Have you tried asking them nicely to turn it down?

Oh God yes. My neighbour is quiet a lot of the time, but sometimes has friends round and puts music on, then they go out and come back in the small hours with his mates and they carry on drinking for hours and get louder and louder, singing along, shouting and whooping. Or they have a gaming night, and shout all the time. As soon as I hear voices through the wall I'm on edge - are they going to be noisy -- how long will it go on for? He has a sound bar which seems to be right by the party wall, and wooden floors - I think it perhaps it wouldn't be quite so loud if the floor was carpeted.
He's a nice enough person, but forgets to keep the noise down once he's had a few drinks.

Urgh! My neighbour does this. always on a Sunday night (starts about lunchtime on Sunday and goes through go 2/3am) and again either on Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday. There’s no way to tell which night it will be midweek. But it will be one of those 3. Its always horrific dance music. Sometimes accompanied by him raging round the house banging and screaming. It makes me so angry but I had horrible experiences with previous aggressive neighbours and other than this I never hear a single peep out of him. I never see him so I have decided to just let it be.

I wish I cold afford to buy a detached house. Or one with more space in between sad

Yes, this. Tbh most of the time when we do hear him he's not making an unreasonable amount of noise (except the early hours drunk thing), but an unreasonable amount of noise seems to travel through the chimney breasts. I'm anxious as soon as I hear him come home.

@Shahlalala don't feel guilty a baby or small child cannot help crying.

Grown ass adults should know when they are being disrespectful and inconsiderate.

There are definitely vibrations - it’s alternating between quieter , but I can’t tune it out (hard to explain) or as loud as my tv. Every now and then it goes quiet and I get hopeful, but I think it’s a cd being changed because it goes up loud again. The uncertainty of volume is adding to my anxiety.

I don’t want to go round now because I’ve had previous aggressive neighbours and I’m worried it’ll get worse as a retaliation. I can’t work them out, sometimes they’re friendly enough and sometimes they’ll blank us 🤷🏽‍♀️. I’m not quite sure how to approach it.

Do people use cds nowadays? I’m honestly not that old!

I really feel for you LemonGingerCakes. Mine's out atm, but is likely to come home after I'm in bed and wake me up. I've now got a white noise machine and that helps mask it, but I get a sort of auditory hallucination and "hear" what sounds like voices talking quietly when it's been switched on for a while - must be something to do with harmonics.

to everyone affected. It helps being able to write on here!

Noise cancelling headphones take out the bass beat.