How do I learn to feel less insecure?

[Chopsicle]

I'm fed up with feeling so insecure. To cut a very long story short - It comes from my childhood, my dad was very distant and seemed to resent me. I started with eating disorders at 12 years old and although I've beaten many different addictions and I'm now married with a baby, I feel have those awful self hating insecure feelings.

How do you make them go away? I have everything I wanted so why do I still feel this way?

Hopeful bump

Hi OP
It sounds like you have a lovely life - married with a baby. Life is good. You mention that you have beaten addictions? You may benefit from talk therapy and hypnotherapy to help you deal with your feelings. Being a new mother can be overwhelming and can raise feelings of insecurity especially if you've dealt with various issues in the past. 🙏

Also having everything that you wanted is exactly the trigger that can make you worried about loosing it. You perhaps feel like - life can't be this good, something has to give? Completely natural feelings. My advice as before, find a good therapist - one that is a registered hypnotherapist. X

Second therapy. If you can't solve it yourself = therapy.

People often go through a difficult patch when they have their own dc. It’s a reminder of their own childhoods and they also worry about making the same mistakes.

Congrats on your baby know that by acknowledging you own difficult past you will be a far better parent than they could ever be.

@MsMellivora You've hit the nail on the head there, since having my baby I've thought so much about my childhood and how unhappy I was, I'm so conscious of not letting my baby have anything like the same experience. I think I also realise even more things about my childhood than I has acknowledged before