How old was your child/baby when you first left them with someone?

[Stillmonday]

Just curious. I don't think there's a right or wrong but know some people have really strong opinionated views on the topic of when to leave a baby!

From birth - left at hospital (needed nicu care)

At about 8 weeks - left with her dad while I went to a work interview

At 6 months - left with her dad while I went to a work meeting overnight

From about 9 months - left daily with a fab nanny

The 8 week one was probably the hardest. And leaving her with her nanny for the first time felt odd as she was basically a stranger then.

About a week, left him for DM for 45mins fast asleep while me and Dh popped to the supermarket so I could get out of the house (I'd spent two nights in hospital and wasn't up for a walk/cafe visit yet)

He was jaundiced though so I knew he'd stay asleep after a big feed, after that it was much harder to leave him as he was ebf.

About a week, left him with DH and popped to the shops for 20 mins.

How can you not have a view, and have a very strong opinion at the same time?

With her dad from about a week.
With her granny from about 8 weeks for an hour or so

Sorry, I misread. You don't think there's a right or wrong, but have "really strong opinionated views". So my question still stands.

@skippy67 You can't. Think you haven't read the post properly 🤦🏻‍♀️

@skippy67 More haste less speed 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Day 4 as I attended a funeral of someone very, very close so I was torn. I didn't like that though if I'm honest and spent the whole hour clock watching, which I feel guilty about. Probably why I didn't leave DD again until around 4 months old with her gran. We had a meal out for my birthday. Much more comfortable with that.

I don't think there is a right or wrong either.

I think about five months on a regular basis when I went back to work part time - two days a week. With my mum.

Sorry forgot to say with DP when I left her at days old.

I find this a bit of an odd question to be honest - I mean, my DH leaves him every day to go to work and has fine since he was a couple of weeks old. I popped out to the supermarket without DS on day 2. He was fine with my husband and I loved the freedom.

EBF so leaving isn't really an option for me. I've managed 30mins away in 7 months.

Two bottle refusers have made me really jealous (lightheartedly!) of people who have the option for time away. I think it's massively important for mums to have time alone. Even an hour at the start.

I do think the fourth trimester should be spent hunkering down with baby and not being away for long periods of time (as they are so little) but after that, go for it.

about 6 weeks - we were building a house and moving a new mobile home on site so my sister had ds for me. I can probably count on one hand tough the amount of nights i've had away from him in his 6 years though. so not a regular thing.

DD2- 3 days. Toddler DD1 was ill so I was splitting myself in two with help from DM... But she couldn't drive so I was having to drive around for prescriptions etc.

I think DD1 was about 8 weeks old, asleep in her car seat at MILs and I literally ran to the post office and back so around 5 mins. Poor MIL must have thought I was a fruitloop! 😂

Mil was great, she was 79 when her first grandchild was born and said she couldn't remember a thing about having small babies so couldn't comment if I was doing it right.

What she did remember was that she couldn't feed DH due to stress so had to give him carnation milk!?? And BIL threw a wooden brick on DH's head when he was a newborn...

First left him with my mum for my 8 week postnatal check. Was gone about 30 mins and felt like I’d had my arm cut off 😂

First left him overnight when I stayed in hospital when ds2 was born.

We had DGS overnight for the first time at 13 weeks while DS and DIL went to a wedding. We look after him for two days a week while they're at work and overnight every couple of months.

3 weeks old with my mum so I could go to my work Christmas lunch and at 5 weeks with a trusted friend so DH and I could see a James Bond film at the cinema. After that I think it must have been when I went back to work.

I'm not getting that leaving a baby with either parent is actually classed as leaving a baby.

I left mine at 4 weeks in the very safe hands if my lovely next door neighbour. She was with her for the best part of 3 weeks while I was in hospital, she even took time off work to do it. A very special lady.

My adored nephew wasn't even a day old when his parents left him for a couple of hours. They went to the pub, me and my mum just sat holding him and gazing at him.
He wasn't a week old by the time he'd been left overnight. They needed the break and my mum was happy to have him when they asked.
Think he has pretty much stayed at his nanas or his aunties once a week (apart from holidays) since and he's 14 now!

@Nottobesoldseparately The mum went to the pub the day she gave birth??? 😮

Yep, they brought him to my mum's house on the way home from the hospital so my dad could meet him (due to a chronic illness flare up he wasn't well enough to leave the house).

She mentioned she fancied a glass of wine and would My mum mind if they nipped out.

My mum was in the throes of new grandparent happiness and she automatically said yes without it really registering. It was only afterwards she looked at me all confused and said eh??

He's loved staying at his grandparents house ever since!

I have booked matinee theatre tickets in my local town for OH & I when my unborn DC1 will be 3 months ish. I have always waited for the show to tour & it finally will be next year.

The plan is to leave baby with MIL.

Who knows if I will be able to do it consider this will be my PFB 😊

10 days I think, from memory, left him with my DM & we walked to a local social event, stayed a couple of hours was b/f but could be home in a couple of minutes if needed.

I did get a comment from another mother ‘how could you possibly leave your baby.’

Not I think if the mum feels up to it there’s nothing wrong with popping out for a drink if she wants to, she must be quite fit if she is up to it just after giving birth, good for her . We shouldn’t judge other women’s choices.