How can I become more tolerant of other people?

[SorryNotConvenient]

As the title suggest really. The older I get, the more intolerant I’m becoming. People who don’t indicate or drive in the middle lane, people in shops who block access to things I want to grab, people at work doing just enough rather than doing things properly. You get the picture.

I think it’s actually making me feel a bit stressed out. How can I become a bit more easy going and not let little things wind me up?

I totally understand how you're feeling. Several years ago I simply made the decision to stop giving a fuck. No indicator light, who care? If you have to wait several seconds in the shop, does it really matter? Co-workers who suck at their job, not my problem. Honestly, just worry about yourself and let it go.

You sound exactly like me! Maybe just remember it's not anything personal against you it's just the way the world is, we are all rushing about trying to do so much (well me anyway!) that we forget to think of others?!

I think we are the same person

The Chimp Paradox is a great book that might help? It's really helping me.

I also read "Surrounded by Idiots" but that helped me less funnily enough

Forgive them for being stupid.

It’s not your job to tell them! I’m the same but just remember - they haven’t the experience!

Yes you have to stop giving a fuck and let it wash over you. Ranting and raving at fuckwits only winds you up and raises your blood pressure.

Learn to swear in another language, very cathartic

Thanks all. I’ll look up that book. Some days I’m calm, mostly I’m mildly irritated!

I was away recently and there was a landmark lots of people were taking pictures of. There was a couple where one had taken a photo of the other, then they stood in front of it having a chat so no one else could take a photo. A man went over and asked them to move out of the way. At that moment I loved him more than DH!

I try not to say anything anymore. I'm sick of being the grumpy, gobby bitch who says something, while surrounded by silent others, who then nod, tut, roll their eyes and agree with my gripe after I've said something. That annoys me more than the original gripe tbh.

Completely agree Justmuddlingalong. Everyone thinks I’m a right miserable cow. I’m really not. I just say what they’re all thinking.