How will you improve your life in 2020?

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With a new year almost upon us, how do you plan to make positive improvements to your life in 2020?

My goals are:

1. Get out of debt: DH and I are about £4.5K in debt and I’m hoping that 2020 will be the year we finally manage to clear this. I’m not sure whether it’s achievable but I really hope we do it. It will give us a significantly better lifestyle if we can and will be a huge weight off my shoulders.

2. Keep my home “visitor ready” at all times: I’m so sick of people asking to pop round and having to spend an age desperately cleaning and tidying in order to make it presentable. I’ve been on an organising and cleaning mission in the run-up to Christmas, and the main rooms are looking decent for the first time in ages. I need to make sure it stays that way all year.

3. Tick off all the annoying tasks on my to do list: including selling or giving away old stuff I never use, and sorting some tricky DIY jobs around the house that have been hanging round for ages.

4. Be more productive at work: I’ve been feeling really lethargic and demotivated over the last couple of months and it has been affecting my work. I really need to change this attitude and make sure I stay on top of things in the new year.

What are yours?

Started a new job in October and only just feel like I'm getting to grips with it so work on building upon that and give it my all.

Get to grips with my eating and relationship with food (and wine ) and lose the pesky 1-1.5 stone that's too much for my frame/height. Get into a healthy eating regime (lower carbs works best for me) and bloody stick to it.

Incorporate exercise into my life, for mental health if nothing else.

Take up a hobby (I've been putting off writing something, anything, for the past few years) or something that takes me out of my comfort zone and will get to meet new people and be more sociable. Which brings me to...

Say goodbye to - and forgive - the former 'close' friends, one who has been my 'best' friend for the past 23 years, who have made me feel truly awful and alone this year and have made me realise I need to make big big changes in my friends and myself to be happy next year. Even if it means feeling alone for a little longer.

Acceptance of my family, especially my mother, and their differences and that they are never going to change. Only I can control my response and behaviour to theirs.

In all of that, I hope the above makes me happier, brings confidence and maybe I will attract someone nice in a romantic sense. Something meaningful that has lacked the last so many years and change the cynic in me that keeps saying there is literally no one out there for me .

Come at me 2020.

Ooft mines was long! Got the writing bit off to an early start 😂

Get to my target weight (2 stone to go).

Do 5k in under 40 minutes.

Beat the claustrophobia and get on a plane without crying.

I have a list...

1. Start Keto diet (at least for 8 weeks to kick start weight loss)

1. Get the house organised- basically Marie Kondo the smeg out of it. I have shit everywhere and I’m fed up of it.

1. Find a new job...I need more money! And I’ve wasted years of my life earning a pittance to look after the kids now it’s time for me to get back into work properly.

1. Sort out our money, last month I spent over £800 on food back to meal planning and being more organised.

1. One weekend a month I am going to drag Dh and dc out of the house, either a day trip to a national trust place or a long walk we spend too much time inside.

1. Sort out my skin...

That’s about it really, I am hoping I do at least 3 of these

I'm going to start looking for a new job. I've sacrificed my career for the past 9 years, for the sake of my sanity & pension I need something more than I am doing now.
I also need to get fit again and ideally lose 3 stone. I have had zero willpower for the past 2 years, I need to make the change.

After being a SAHM for years, I'm going back to work. Just very part-time bank work to start with but it will get me some recent experience and it will be fun to be part of a team again. I'm looking forward to it.

I'll also be continuing the decluttering - a constant task but I have done some major paperwork decluttering recently which has really helped. It's keeping up with it all. DD has also been brilliant at getting rid of games, books and toys.

Continue to work on a capsule wardrobe - fewer items but better quality. Less mix and match, more defined outfits instead she says, sitting in a Christmas jumper and jeans

Keep going to therapy, no matter what. I don't care about many resolutions; this is my most important. For 15 months, I have attended, and I am determined to see it through to the bitter end. I already see positive results but not enough.

Work on my budgeting skills. I am tired of running out of money at the end of the first week of the month and stressing.

I'm not sure this is in the spirit of the thread, but this year I've completely run out of fucks to give so it's going to be interesting to see how that pans out in 2020.

1. get divorced
2. buy stbx out of the house
3. do what I want to do with the house without fear.
4. start taking better care of myself. Better diet, taking regular exercise that I enjoy. Reading. Maybe go out occasionally!

Make little changes that I’ve tried for a long time but couldn’t manage. Better self care, food etc.

The difference is I’m about six weeks into being medicated for ADHD. Little things are changing already.

Continue a vegan diet
Drink less
Love who I am
And come off anti depressants

Become qualified in my career, leave my job unless there are some significant changes. 6 months to go!!

I am going to manage money better and be kinder to myself.

I am separated from my Ex-H, so I am using my days off to actually take a breather and do things that make me happy, rather than feel i had to work twice as hard because Ex-H saw my days of not working as a 'luxury' so would expect me to account for what I had done on my days off, and would sulk if he didnt think I was busy enough. Its taken me some time but I am realising that if I want to go and watch a movie on a wednesday morning, or have a nap in the afternoon im off before picking the kids up I bloody well can, and its been so liberating. I feel happier and I want to continue this is 2020.

Take care of myself a bit more, say No a bit more often, and try to put myself first once in a while, harder than it sounds for someone like me.

I have to lose weight drink less and move more. This decade I have spent parenting I have lost myself not that I would change a thing but needs to stop now.

Move to Chicago.

Find a new job. Hopefully something permanent, after years and years of agency work to fit in with health issues (CFS) and childcare.

Eat more vegan food. I've been vegetarian nearly 20 years and would like to have a couple of days a week dairy-free.

Carry on with my 10,000 steps minimum per day. Maybe even do a Couch to 5k.

Take up Pilates again and possibly Yoga.

Read more books and spend far less time online.

Go back to Slimming World. I lost 2.5 stone on it, stopped going and gained back about 1.5. I've just become a healthy living ambassador at my work so I'd better set a good example!

Get a new work wardrobe. I'm trying to move on in my career and I've found that I somehow feel different and more professional when wearing dresses as opposed to my usual jeans, so a change of mindset may help.

Actually get round to downsizing my car. It's too big and expensive for just me so I really should change it but I've been too lazy. Plus I kinda love it.....

Continue with 2019's goals.
Continue paying debt, should be debt free in 15 months
Continue with self care, I feel much better when I'm looking after myself
Adding: try to go out once a month on a date night with my husband

I love being home with dd but she starts a couple of mornings a week at nursery so I can get some work done during the day.

I'm going to try and enjoy myself more, I feel I just exist at the moment. I'm 63 and semi retired, so I don't have to bother about work or career progression. No mortgage no debts, I'm comfortable and have always lived within my means. I just need to get out there and enjoy the freedom, spend time with nice people.

I've just had to take finance out on a car, so want to pay that off as soon as possible.
Get rid of some of the junk in my house... especially in the loft!
Have a clear out of my Facebook friends.
Cut back on sugar (this could well be wishful thinking!).

Start medication for my anxiety I think.

Lose weight- at least 3 stone cos the Husband doesn't want to be intimate anymore coz I'm too fat

• keep going to therapy - have only just started a few months ago but it's already life changing
• get married to the man I love
• I do need to lose a bit of weight (5 kg) but not only because of that I want to eat healthier and find other options & drink way more water (this has always been a pain in the ass, only thirsty after I eat)
• learn when to say no and finish the year with my energy levels higher than this one