Who pays for a baby shower?

[Rainingdogsandcats]

Been invited to a baby shower at a nice hotel. Have been asked to contribute £5 towards cost.

Hostess said traditionally women friends would host for mum to be and bring food and decorations and since hotel is providing food and hostess is organising decorations then can we contribute £5.

I don't mind paying towards, £5 is nothing really for a lovely afternoon out but other friend is up in arms and saying hostess is CF.

Hostess is a female relative of mum to be, we are good friends.

I've been to some where we weren't asked for anything and some where I have paid £5/£10.

£5 each isn’t exactly bank breaking.

When I’ve been, people have paid for their own food or done a bring and share.

I would say the person/persons organising it. But if it was something like an afternoon tea in a nice restaurant etc I would expect to pay for myself and to chip in for the mtb.

£5 as a contribution to afternoon tea doesn’t sound much - the hotel is surely charging more than that?

I wouldn’t pay at someone’s house but i think of you agree to go out for afternoon tea you are kinda agreeing to pay.

I've never been to one as I couldn't think of anything worse, but if I did I reckon chipping in for a hotel is completely fine, chipping in if it's a someone's house isn't.

I have always been to baby showers where we were expected to pay.. up to £15 in my experience.

I think the relative is footing the rest of the bill as it was worded as we were contributing rather than paying for ourselves.