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WWYD... with your last few child-free months?

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WhiteDenim · 19/12/2019 13:42

We're expecting our first at the end of March. As well as getting ready for baby, we also want to cherish our last few months of being footloose and fancy free. We're going to the theatre in the new year, and we've booked a UK mini break for Feb for some relaxation... But with the benefit of hindsight, is there anything that you would definitely do with child free time?

And don't worry, we're already sleeping every chance we get!

Thanks

OP posts:

MySonThePotato · 19/12/2019 14:01

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Go to the cinema. Most other things, like meals out and mini-breaks, are fairly easy to do with a baby in tow. But the cinema (or a play, concert or show) is much more difficult.

NemophilistRebel · 19/12/2019 14:01

Book a lovely holiday somewhere that won’t be as easy to go with little ones

Have a night away in a luxury spa

Go for posh dinners

Go to adult cinema of any films you want to see

QueenWhatevs · 19/12/2019 14:04

Declutter your house and yes, cinema, cinema and more cinema!

Zarara · 19/12/2019 14:07

Congratulations

I was just going to come on and say cinema, I never even liked going to the cinema but it’s something I miss having the opportunity to do if I wanted.

I would also go on a spa day/break and have a massage.

I would also recommend taking lots of photos of your bump, they’re lovely to look back on.

Winterdaysarehere · 19/12/2019 14:12

We booked a break away at 35 weeks.
Car packed I ran (waddled) back in for a quick wee. 1. 1 spot of blood. Quick check up at the hospital(I truly thought) and ds was born by emcs 4 hours later.
Did get a card from the comedien we were supposed to be going to see!!
Don't resent ds one bit ...

gonewiththerain · 19/12/2019 14:14

Read, sleep, declutter, theatre, cinema but mainly sleep

Pegase · 19/12/2019 14:17

Cinema. Go to posh restaurants late. Papers in bed.

justsotiredallthetime · 19/12/2019 14:19

Literally do nothing. Chill, have lie ins together, read, long baths and enjoy knowing you don't have to do anything!

Havana7 · 19/12/2019 14:21

Have afternoon naps, duvet day on the couch watching a film, declutter, clothes shopping for after the birth

NameChange30 · 19/12/2019 14:22

Marie Kondo your house. I am not joking. Declutter doesn't even cover it.

Plus dates and nights away which you're already doing

Helbelle17 · 19/12/2019 14:22

Sleep, definitely sleep.

Greyhound22 · 19/12/2019 15:20

Read. I used to read all the time. DS is now 5 and I still don't get the chance.

Honeybee85 · 19/12/2019 15:25

Sleep
Read books undisturbed
Go get a lovely beauty treatment/ massage
Go on a nice holiday

Practical stuff:
Do some cooking and put stuff in the freezer in last weeks of pregnancy. Trust me, you’ll be happy if you’re even just able to eat a few minutes in peace those first weeks.

Use the end of the year sales to buy some inbetween clothes. I hated wearing maternity jeans after birth but had to because at least for 2 or 3 months I couldn’t fit in my old jeans yet.

titnomatani · 19/12/2019 15:31

Plan as many cinema/theatre trips in as you can. I hated travelling abroad after 30 weeks- I was hot, bothered and swollen so the relaxing element went out of any travel and it felt more like a chore.

Arrange to meet friends- plan/host get togethers if you've got the energy.

Sleep and have as much sex as you can before the baby arrives.

Batch cook a few weeks before baby's arrival and freeze as much as you can.

Finish off any DIY/decluttering jobs you've got around the house- me and my DH were super prepared for baby's arrival but fell short here and had many arguments about it. Don't be us!

Get a facial, body wax, massage booked in. Get your hair and nails done. My first wax after the baby was when he was 6 months old and I felt like a bloody bear- don't be me! Still haven't been for a facial sadly :/

mindutopia · 19/12/2019 16:31

Eating out at restaurants that you wouldn’t go to with a child (you’ll have many years ahead of you to eat at Pizza Express! Go somewhere less child friendly).

Also go places you want to go alone that are far from your house. We were able to finally have date nights again when ours were around 2, but it’s too far to go more than to our local pub. By the time we drive somewhere far away, we can barely squeeze in a meal before we have to go home for the babysitter to leave.

Also just doing things alone, sit in a cafe and read a book, have lunch alone in peace. You may also consider moving your weekend away sooner. I definitely sorta felt I wanted to be close to home by 8 months. 7 months I felt a bit more keen to do things.

A spa day too.

Poetryinaction · 19/12/2019 17:01

Just be so excited. It never occurred to me to prepare like that. And when the baby came along I didn't change my lifestyle thst much. I had more freedom not being at work. It was amazing. But I still went out to linch, went to the pub. I guess I couldn't exercise without the baby easily, but I walked a lot with him. Having one was not a shock to me. I think people who were mourning their old lives struggled more with having one. Now I have 3 I really miss exercise, sleeping in, having evenings to myself, getting my work done then coming home rather than rushing out to childcare... but the change was gradual. I never used to do spa days or theatre, but do miss live music, and being alone.

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