Anyone else's DH /OH never arrange anything?

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DH is doing my head in, I really feel at the end of my tether. We've been together for 10 years, one DC. He never ever suggests or arranges any of our outings, holidays, trips out. EVER! If I didn't suggest trips out at the weekend, trips away, even just popping out to take the family / dog for a walk we would literally never go anywhere. So fed up and I've not been on a date or had a date night (even just at home) for 6 years! Going slightly vert stir crazy.

Would he mind if you stopped organising things? Maybe he prefers to relax and is a home bird.

Why are you annoyed now if he’s been like this for a decade? He is who he is, he’s not going to change now.

Why haven’t you organised dates if you want them?

My DH loves being at home so probably wouldn’t book much either. He’s happy to go when I do organise stuff though.

Why are you going stir crazy about not having had a date for 6 years yet haven’t done anything about it-that is just bizarre!?

Yep. Really disappointing- in 25 years he hasn't booked a restaurant or made a decision about a date. Not for special birthdays, anniversaries, nothing.

He does however book holidays.

Yes bizarre bizarre bizarre! I haven't done anything about it because I'm sick of arranging everything about our lives. Guess I will just leave him home and go find someone more fun to be around. Thanks for all your useful advice.

Guess I will just leave him home and go find someone more fun to be around.

Well, you can do that if you want to.

Your post doesn’t mention anything about him not being fun to be around, it’s more that he doesn’t organise anything.

My DH doesn’t organise anything either but he can be very good company.

Are there more problems than arranging things in your relationship?

I can count the number of things my DH has arranged on one hand. Two of those were our first date and our engagement.

He's just not a planner. It drives me batty sometimes but he won't change, it's just not in him. He's a happy home hermit and I married him knowing that.

He's a fantastic cleaner and DIYer though so I feel like I have a much better deal anyway!

Nope. Been together 43 years so obviously I decided long ago to learn to live with it. His good qualities more than make up for it. Also he doesn't mind where we go or what it costs as long as he doesn't have to decide.