When to start overnight stays at child’s dads house?

[Febee23]

What age to start thinking about letting the child’s father have overnight stays with daughter?
Take into consideration that I was single and threatened throughout my pregnancy on what to do once daughter was born so has only seen our daughter a hand full of times and no real bond and trust has happened as of yet

OP you've had so much to deal with so quickly. Try not to get ahead of yourself. The short answer to your original question is that I wouldn't be considering overnight visits anytime soon. Why would you?

The court will not rush to agree it either.

From what you have told us it sounds as if you just need to keep going & doing what you are doing. Keep a record of any contact. Try and make the record as object as you can. Simply note his comments.

You made an unfortunate hook up and you sound as if you want to make a relationship work with him for your daughter. You can't do much about the fact that he won't actually try.

Object to what you feel strongly about in court.

That’s the whole point I’m not allowing contact until the court have decided when and where If he proves to the court he’s a ‘good dad’ and his past is his past he can actually gain everything he’s after apart from the name change that’ll be decided there and then I guess.
If he were to prove to the court over sometime he has changed then I can only the court allowing all that he is asking for

No I don’t want to rush overnight stay either as I explain there are many concerns and risks with regards to my daughters father now he’s been seen clear on police record for 5 years not that he has change he just hasn’t clearly been caught. I’m taking VERY step to make sure my daughter is is no risk of danger I’ve informed as many professionals about this matter it just now to wait and see what the court decide and of course this is making me anxious he seems so confident in what he’ll get as well as him having a solicitor who is his best friends wife... doesn’t help at all as I see this a conflict of interest

Even if I were to fight him not going on the Birth certificate he will be granted going on there by court no matter what only major crimes is when they may not be put on the birth certificate. As for me until the court have decided that’s when he will be going on the birth certificate

Hi OP. This man is not your child's father, but her sperm donor. Regarding court, have you received a hearing date? Solicitor's letters are merely an expensive bit of toilet paper. You have one big advantage in that he's not on the birth certificate, so he has to do all the lifting.

Seriously, do you want this loser in your family? Do you want your little girl in the presence of weed smoking vermin? Cut him out.

Just seen your latest. Check the name on the letter against the Law Society register, then ring the firm and find out if they've got someone called that working there. "Best friend's wife", chinny reckon.

I Made contact with a solicitor to reply to his a few months ago and I refuse to waste money on back and forth when it’s not getting no where when obviously his solicitor is not having my daughters safety in her best of interest. I’ve been bombarded with letters from herself and trying to turn it all around on me.. which is expected.
A risk Assessment has taken place. That’s what brought up his crimes that I didn’t even know about so before I knew he had a criminal record I was worried I wouldn’t be able to prove my concerns for my daughter so if anything that has definitely gone in my favour as exactly what I’ve brought to their attention is the same behaviour he is known to the police for that I didn’t know about

Done my research I 100% know it’s his best friends wife that’s representing him

Thanks OP. I asked because I've been harassed by a twat who would impersonate all sorts of people, even to the extent of faking stationery.

Yeah that’s not good! I strangely recognised her name on one of the letters to when me and my daughters dad was friends on social media and literally all clicked how personally involved she comes across ‘conflict of interest’