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Is it weird to ask my son’s teacher Contact?

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vicky2007 · 17/12/2019 17:18

My son’s teacher who we were lucky enough to have her for 1 and half year in her class is leaving the school. My sons class will have a new teacher next term in January.

Now my son has learning disability and she has been nothing but great. So much love, support, care, patience, guidance and encouragement. He has come a long way since starting her class.

I wanted to ask her contact number, even an email really but Im afraid It’ll come out bit weird? 😀please let me know what you think.

Thank you

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Teachermaths · 17/12/2019 17:22

Don't ask this. Why do you want it?

Write a nice letter saying thank you and wish her well. If she wants to share details, she will.

PlasticPatty · 17/12/2019 17:23

That would be wrong of you. You don't own her.

ISmellBabies · 17/12/2019 17:29

Don't ask, it's not just wierd but a bit rude. It may come across that you want to continue a relationship where you can do nothing for her, but she can help and support you/your son a lot in her own time even though it's not her job anymore! Just no. Much better would be to write in a thank you /leaving card "my name is xyz on Facebook and my profile pic is me in a red hat, do friend request me it'd be great to keep in touch" (or give your mobile no/email address). And then she won't but she at least has the choice without having to say a direct "no thanks" to you which is awkward as fuck.

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AllTheCakes · 17/12/2019 17:29

Absolutely not. She’s a professional, not there to be on email should you fancy it.

Spied · 17/12/2019 17:34

She's leaving. It's great she's been good at her job and even gone above and beyond -but really No.
It's very unlikely she would want to maintain contact.
She will be aware of boundaries and what is appropriate.

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vicky2007 · 17/12/2019 17:38

Yes, I think I actually already new it would be wrong but I guess just wanted to hear from others to really convince myself that it’s a No No.

I will just write her a thank you note and leave it at that.

Thank you for all the replies x

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knocknockgryffindor · 17/12/2019 17:40

I'm a teacher and I wouldn't mind being asked this at all.

Clangus00 · 17/12/2019 17:42

Wait till she leaves and add her to Facebook.

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vicky2007 · 17/12/2019 17:44

@knocknockgryffindor oh that’s nice to know you’re a teacher and wouldn’t mind. Doesn’t make me look like a complete nutcase for even thought of it

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FraglesRock · 17/12/2019 17:53

Write a lovely note thanking her for the things she's done for her.
You could put your email on the bottom and then it's in her court.

Pinkflipflop85 · 17/12/2019 17:54

Dont ask her. You will just put her in the awkward position of having to say no to you.

TheLittleBrownFox · 17/12/2019 17:57

The polite way of doing it is to enclose your contact details and say you'd really like to keep in touch with her. That way if she doesn't want to, she can discretely ignore it

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LilyMumsnet · 17/12/2019 18:34

Hi OP,

We're just moving this to the chat topic for you.

Takeyoutothehorsedentist · 17/12/2019 19:52

I used to work 1:1 with a child with SEN and I would have LOVED to stay in touch but it would have been unprofessional of me to suggest it. It's been nearly three years now and I still wonder how she's doing and hope everything is going well for the family.

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