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Feeling bad/sad that this Christmas I can't buy presents for...

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Schwibble · 17/12/2019 12:16

Our doggy day care lady
Our cattery lady, who is also a friend
Our vet to share with nurses/receptionists
My beauty therapist

We have had to rein in our Christmas spending this year as DH was made redundant a few months ago. Normally the above would get a decent chocolate hamper and/or good wine, but we simply cannot stretch to it this year and I feel so bad about it. I love to treat the people who are always so good to us and who we have a good relationship with, and am sad that this year it won't happen.

What if they are expecting something and are disappointed or offended when it doesn't happen? Sad Will it sour the good client relationship we have with them, e.g. the beauty therapist and vet?

Our cattery lady is also a friend, I've already told her there won't be a hamper this year and she was so kind, saying she doesn't expect anything anyway. She and our doggy day care lady get occasional thank you gifts through the year anyway, e.g. flowers or chocolates after holiday stays.

I guess it's not helped by being told by our doggy day care lady that one of her other clients bought her and her family a holiday Hmm

OP posts:
Schwibble · 17/12/2019 16:41

*Trewser

This can't be true.

If it is, it's tragic *

How so? I'm genuinely feeling bad about it, quite sad too and your comment hasn't helped.

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Smelly50 · 17/12/2019 18:08

Schwibble . Maybe you could make up a little hamper . Cheaper than pre bought and you can buy the things you can be sure will be used . If finances wont permit this christmas you could do it next year . Maybe putting couple of long life bots in with shopping each week.

Trewser · 17/12/2019 18:09
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Smelly50 · 17/12/2019 18:09

Bits not bots

VanyaHargreeves · 17/12/2019 18:12

I find this to be an unsubtle stealth boast.

There are people worrying about gifts for their young children....

formerbabe · 17/12/2019 18:15

There are people worrying about gifts for their young children....

Yes yes but what about the electrician who came round 7 months ago because he's running a commercial enterprise?! What about him?!

VanyaHargreeves · 17/12/2019 18:16

@formerbabe

However will he cope without our largesse?!

CakeAndGin · 17/12/2019 18:20

We got our dog walker a bottle of wine. I feel like that’s enough. We are paying her after all.

However, if you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. If not giving them a present, even though you presumably pay them promptly, sours the relationship then honestly they aren’t a great business to be with and I’d take your custom elsewhere. I buy for our dog walker because our dog absolutely adores her and she makes our life easier (even though we pay for that service obviously). She’s a nice person and we’re grateful for her. If she expected a gift, I would be looking elsewhere no matter how much my dog adores her.

I don’t think it helps though that you seem to be running in some pretty ostentatious circles (nothing against that) because who the fuck gets their doggy day care person a holiday?!?! Even a really nice hamper isn’t going to come close to a holiday.

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