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DD(3) has not been to the loo for 48 hrs

27 replies

MrsKoala · 16/12/2019 14:32

Just that really. My DD who is recently 3 has always been a camel when it comes to weeing. Since she was about 1 she has gone 1-2 times a day. Then in the last year it’s gone down to once a day between 11.30am-2.30pm every day.

When she does go she floods her nappy and drenches her clothes and the floor. Her eyes water and she looks a bit shocked like she has no idea what is happening.

I’ve been to the dr twice and they just dismissed me and said it’s nothing to worry about she’ll go when she needs to. They have done uti checks and there is nothing wrong. She says it doesn’t hurt or burn to go that she just doesn’t want to.

She drinks plenty and eats wet food with sauces and gravy and eats loads of fruit and veg.

Now tho she hasn’t been since 2pm on Friday, wee or poo.

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AhoyMrBeaver · 16/12/2019 14:34

That's 72 hours, and far too long to have gone without weeing. Do you have a walk-in medical centre, or any chance to see a GP this afternoon? You can't leave this until tomorrow.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 16/12/2019 14:35

That is a medical emergency go to A and E right now.

backouch · 16/12/2019 14:36

Take her today, and good luck. Hope you can get it all sorted.

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LeekMunchingSheepShagger · 16/12/2019 14:37

Yy medical emergency go straight to a&e

Lulualla · 16/12/2019 14:38

If shes withholding for that long then she could burst her bladder.
If shes not withholding and simply has no urine after that amount of time then there is something wrong with her. Pop up to A&E or call 111

Purpleartichoke · 16/12/2019 14:38

2yo Dd did this for 24 hours once. We were traveling and decided to use disposable diapers for the trip. At the 24 hour mark I got ahold of a cloth diaper, put it on her and she peed instantly.

Is there some change in routine like that? If so, change back. If not, go to the hospital now.

MustardScreams · 16/12/2019 14:38

Straight to A&E right now. Not weeing for that long could be catastrophic.

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MrsKoala · 16/12/2019 14:39

Sorry, I meant Sat afternoon, not Friday.

She has just gone under the table and all over the floor. But it’s still 48 hrs between wees. I’m so pissed off the gp says it’s nothing to worry about. I can’t find any information on the internet about kids doing that. The gp says he has never heard of it.

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HorridHamble · 16/12/2019 14:40

A&E. Urinary retention is a medical emergency. I know this as I was hospitalised with it.

minipie · 16/12/2019 14:41

I would suggest asking for a referral to a continence nurse?

MustardScreams · 16/12/2019 14:41

Take her to A&E. No toddler should be holding wee for 48 hours.

LeekMunchingSheepShagger · 16/12/2019 14:41

You need to go back to the GP and insist on a referral to a specialist op.

ScreamingLadySutch · 16/12/2019 14:43

Would it help putting her back into nappies so she can feel secure?

Or, maybe make it a game? Maybe you sit on the loo and then 'can you do a wee bigger than mummy'

Snatching at straws here OP

MutedUser · 16/12/2019 14:43

Go straight to the hospital

BercowsFestiveFlamingo · 16/12/2019 14:44

Wtf! I'm a nurse- take her to a&e. It's a medical emergency not to have passed urine for so long.

Robs20 · 16/12/2019 14:44

Take her to a&e straight away. My daughter had this and it was a sign that her kidneys were shutting down.

Lulualla · 16/12/2019 14:45

I touched on this at uni, but only briefly and years ago. It was something like dysfunctional elimination syndrome. Kids withholding their toilet needs for long periods of time for lots of reasons (feeling like it's wrong, dirty or simply they dont want to let go of anything etc). Maybe try looking that up. Its psychological rather than physical so the GP might not know much, but she will have already stretched her bladder to the point that a long wait between is normal. Anymore though and she could end up in trouble.

FreezerBird · 16/12/2019 14:45

If you're not getting anywhere with the GP I'd recommend contacting Eric, the children's continence charity. I think they'd be really good on this.

0808 169 9949

FreezerBird · 16/12/2019 14:46

In fact having read Luluala's post and being reminded of conversations I've had with Eric, I'd say definitely contact them.

cultmaskid · 16/12/2019 14:47

Hospital

Sprinklemetinsel · 16/12/2019 14:47

She's been now, so presumably it's no longer an emergency.

Can you try potty training her?

If she's rewarded for doing a pee (a jelly bean or similar) she may pay attention and learn to let go.

I'd try lots of praise and a jelly bean whenever she pees.
Sitting on the potty or toile after every meal- also rewarded with a jelly bean.

She'll start to associate the two, and perhaps learn to relax and let it go in order to earn more jelly beans.

Lulualla · 16/12/2019 14:47

I had a quick look. I'm not sure if it's the same thing I'm thinking of, but it's all kind of under an umbrella of toilet problems.

You need to look at bladder retraining.

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MrsKoala · 16/12/2019 14:48

Okay I will do. The last time he actually laughed and said it wasn’t a thing. Angry

All my kids hold it for ages and don’t go when we are out. We were out all day in London yesterday so I was poised with spare clothes, towels and wipes but it just never happened. She hasn’t weed at night since she was under 1. She has bfed a lot and the hv said it was probably because breast milk is almost all absorbed by the body so there isn’t much waste. But now she only has one feed a day at bedtime.

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MrsKoala · 16/12/2019 14:55

We haven’t potty trained her because she freaks out when she sees the toilet or potty. Really shrieking and screaming. No amount of praise or sweets will make her go near one. We thought this was why she was holding it in.

My older dc have sensory issues so I thought it may be to do with similar (ds1 never pooed or weed outside the house from 1 till he was about 5).

I’m scared now, what could make her kidneys shut down?

I’ll call that number. Thanks everyone.

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Sprinklemetinsel · 16/12/2019 15:06

Ah, that's a bit different then. Could you put a cloth or towel over the potty? Or use the bath? I'm just thinking of ways around the sensory side of things. I think your GP is being a bit lackadaisical though. Can you see a different one?