Name change as I think my Dsis is on here.
Me and my ex were together 8 years before we had DD, but after we had her he fell into a Sort of depression, by the time she was 6 months old it was a miserable house, he kept missing work which caused a lot of arguments, staying in bed til late in the mornings, not helping so much etc
Said he felt too much pressure and overwhelmed.
We split when DD was 11 months old as we figured we would both be happier for her if we lived apart. This turned out to be true and DD is almost 2 now.
He sees her 3/4 times a week, sometimes he has her alone but sometimes we take her out together (usually once or twice a week) we go to soft play or the park or swimming and then to a cafe/restaurant with her. She’s really happy when we are all together, she loves being alone with each of us too of course but when we are together she gets so excited and you can tell she feels happy that we get along.
We do seem to get on better now we don’t live together but I don’t think we would ever get back together, if we did and ended up splitting again it could be very confusing and upsetting for DD. I do feel guilty that she doesn’t have both of her parents living together.
Anyway, my parents don’t really like Ex as they think he’s a coward for leaving us etc. I can see it from their point of view and don’t think they are being unreasonable. They don’t like it that we take DD out together as they say split up couples don’t do this and why can’t DD just see him alone all the time.
There’s now a massive argument going on with me and my parents to do with Xmas day.
Ex will be having DD 10am- 4pm at his parents and then I’ll have her for the evening and night. However we both thought it’d be nice if Ex came over at about 8am so she could open some of her presents with us both, I know DD will like having us both there on Xmas morning. We were going to do this about 8am-10am then Ex would take DD to his parents and I’d go to mine.
My parents think this is absurd and I need to meet a new man now as I’m running out of time to get married and DD won’t care anyway if she doesn’t see us both together on days out. I personally don’t think taking DD out once a week with Ex is weird, nor is spending two hours together with her on Xmas day. I get on with Ex which I’m very glad about but on my side at least there’s no feelings towards him and we haven’t done anything since splitting which could be seen as flirting or anything.
So my final question I suppose is are we weird for doing this? Are there any other separated parents who take their DC out together? Am I the only one 