When do goody bags stop at birthday parties?

[MrsCollinssettled]

Taking a couple of dc's friends out for a birthday meal in a couple of weeks. They are all turning 12, so will gift bags still be expected now they've left primary school? Don't want other parents to be cursing me if I do them and no else is.

You can stop them.
People don't care about goodie bags anyway.

People don’t usually give them after primary school ime.

No not at all nobody is expecting bags

Yep once in high school they stop

Depends on the child. How about giving them a small bok or bar of chocolate/bag of sweets instead?

Way too old! I stopped long before the end of primary school.

Depends on the school / what other parents do. Some in my DN’s school still do goody bags but as it’s a fairly posh private school, there tends to be pressure for the bags to contain expensive things — for example Nintendo Switches etc. As I’m a lazy bugger I usually just pop in vouchers for stuff like local horse riding / go karting / archery sessions etc. But I can easily spend £60 per bag so invitations are limited.

@grumpyhoonmain
Please can I come to your next DNs birthday , i will bring jelly and Angel Delight

I think my mi ds justbeen blown £60 ona goody bag

Thanks everyone-- that's a chore I will be happy to lose

DS had his birthday recently at a venue and the organisers did the bag, which was a sweet cone and piece of cake. The kids seemed happy. If it was a party at home I would be more inclined to do a bag. For a secondary school kid though, just sweets, definitely!

ditch them, ditch the plastic!

yep no goody bags. I didn't do them at DS2 party - just a cake and a drink each (he just turned 10)

Ds has just had his 12th birthday. I don't do goody bags anymore, they get a chocolate santa or a chocolate orange.

This time of year a chocolate Santa is perfect. They stop here after about y4/5 once the class party nightmares are over.

Grumpy are you talking about the actual birthday present? If you are talking about the party favour/goody bag then what do the children get for their present?!

Depends on the school / what other parents do. Some in my DN’s school still do goody bags but as it’s a fairly posh private school, there tends to be pressure for the bags to contain expensive things — for example Nintendo Switches etc. As I’m a lazy bugger I usually just pop in vouchers for stuff like local horse riding / go karting / archery sessions etc. But I can easily spend £60 per bag so invitations are limited.

Eh?? A Nintendo switch for a guest...?

😮 at Nintendo switch in party bags!

£60 for a goody bag! Would like to announce that I am available and willing as a guest throughout the festive season ...

Tenpenceabag I wouldn't be at all surprised by the idea of a Nintendo Switch being given in a party bag at certain schools

My DN had a full scholarship to one of those schools in the mid to late 1990s. It was the time that digital camera were becoming more widely available and she got given a top quality one in a party bag... 4 weeks later she got another and gave it to her DB. She got invited to amazing parties - weekend with a few of your friends in top notch hotel in New York anyone (the flipping party bags came from Tiffanys)

So I would not be at all surprised if such schools have now moved to Switches in party bags