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Mum in hospital - bit of support

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Sueaxlbrick · 15/12/2019 17:46

I don't know why I'm posting, just for a bit of support I guess.

My mum has been in hospital for about 5 days with constant nosebleeds and an infection somewhere in her body that they haven't found yet. I went today and she looks so unwell and is still having nosebleeds, it's such a worry as she is usually so healthy. Sje has a fever and is on antibiotics but there is no improvement. She isn't eating and just feels so awful.
She had ct scan of her head on Friday but won't get the results until tomorrow, the nurse said the results are on the system but the consultant will need to tell her and her next of kin tomorrow as they're not in on weekends. This is worrying as why would they need to tell her and her next of kin?

I'm just feeling so stressed and worried, I'm not eating , not sleeping, not drinking, nothing and I have to support my dad and brother through it all and be the strong positive one. Just finding it all a bit too much.

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Quartz2208 · 15/12/2019 17:50

Very little happens at the weekend without the consultant being there hopefully they have found the infection and have a treatment plan

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Sueaxlbrick · 15/12/2019 17:57

Thanks, hopefully that's what it is and she can start recovery this week

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Sueaxlbrick · 15/12/2019 19:08

The problem is she hasn't seen a specialist since she was admitted so we feel very fobbed off at the moment. It's so hard to just sit by while she feels so I'll

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Quartz2208 · 15/12/2019 20:11

You never do at the weekend they just dont work! Hopefully tomorrow will bring some news

helpfulperson · 15/12/2019 20:42

Generally if it is serious or important you will see a consultant or specialist over the weekend. In my experience where the NHS falls down at the weekend is the gap between 'well enough to send home' and 'seriously ill' . I ended up in hospital for 48 hours over a weekend because i was obviously ill but not top of the radiologist list because the painkillers were working so i kept getting bumped to the bottom of the list as a non emergency.

But if you are concerned ask to speak to the charge nurse who will know what is happening.

helpfulperson · 15/12/2019 20:45

Sorry, should have added, when my mum was seriously ill over a weekend she saw consultant and d other specialists, just not the regular ones.

Sounds like there is a problem but nothing that can't wait until Monday.

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Sueaxlbrick · 15/12/2019 21:42

Thank you, that's reassuring. She's just so fed up and it's heart breaking to see her so ill. I'm going to try to keep positive until we hear further tomorrow. Thanks again

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LucyLocketss · 15/12/2019 21:54

A consultant would be there at the weekend if this was truly life threatening - that was my experience with my mum anyway. So I'm crossing my fingers for you that it's something treatable. Hang in there until tomorrow.

LucyLocketss · 15/12/2019 21:57

And I know how tough this is, I really do. Try and look after yourself, it's really important to do so right now

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Sueaxlbrick · 15/12/2019 22:09

Thank you, it's really comforting to hear that.

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LucyLocketss · 16/12/2019 16:43

How are things today @Sueaxlbrick

LouisaJenny · 16/12/2019 17:06

How are things today OP?

It is really tough at weekends in hospital. Hope you’ve got some answers?

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Sueaxlbrick · 16/12/2019 18:56

Hi, thanks for thinking of me. It wasn't good news today and they have said that it could be cancer. Nothing is certain and there are more scans and tests to come but this has come out of the blue so was a big shock for us.

She has always been well with nothing at all wrong until about 5 weeks ago when she got flu like symptoms and it's all gone from there.

We're trying to be positive and don't want to panic until we know for sure but it's been a really difficult day.

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LucyLocketss · 16/12/2019 19:53

Oh dear sorry to hear this. I know these days are difficult and horrible - they're just indescribable really. But, like all the days, they pass and you creep further forward to a diagnosis and treatment plans etc. Just keep breathing and hang on in there for now

Guineapig456 · 16/12/2019 20:04

Thinking of you and your mum. It must be so worrying for you all. 💐

DotForShort · 16/12/2019 20:16

A hand hold for you. I can only imagine the worry and stress you must be experiencing. Flowers

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Sueaxlbrick · 16/12/2019 20:41

Thank you so much everyone. We just have to take each step as it comes at the moment.

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LouisaJenny · 17/12/2019 12:27

Thinking of you OP.

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Sueaxlbrick · 20/12/2019 14:55

Thank you for the responses. We've had some positive news in that there was nothing sinister in her sinuses, just blood from the severe bleeds. Also the liver ultrasound didn't show anything worrying according to the technician but we have to wait for the official report.
She's gone down for a lung biopsy as we speak so we're really crossing our fingers that this is all just a massive infection or virus. The only thing is she's so weak and is now very short of breath and on oxygen which only started today. I suppose this could be part of the infection, I don't know. She's on strong antibiotics now which started about 36 hours ago, hopefully they're the right ones.

I don't really know why I'm posting, it just helps to write it down I think.

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circleorsquare · 21/12/2019 17:08

How is she doing today?

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