So my husband has been working with this girl for the past year and he talks about her a lot, saying one of the guys in the office falls out with her as he treats her as a PA and shes not a PA she is HR, when their office opened it was my husband and another man then the HR woman joined and I haven't stopped hearing about her, even to the point it was their work Christmas party on friday and he mentioned a few times shes stressing about what to wear etc... what man who give a sh*t enough about a female colleague saying that that had mention it to me a few times. Went to the Christmas party with him met everyone for the first time, shes obviously a bit tipsy stood their telling us how nice it would be for us to spend more time together without the kids book a hotel etc she must have said this at least 3 times to me and my husband at the same time... first time I've met the woman and we have quiet a few date nights etc, anyway I was like ok shes just drunk didnt think anything of it. Then suspicion got the better of me and I looked through his work phone, theres texts on there from her to him saying where are you, when are you back the other guys have left the office - why would she send that ? Then another one saying where are you his at the pub told her to come down there is free drinks, shes replied oh knew you'd do this where is it I'll come for one. Another occasion his text her moaning about one of the other guys in the office saying hell tell her more later then they arrange to go out for drinks. This is on his work phone and I know I shouldn't be snooping but past experiences have left me untrusting. I haven't had a chance to look at his normal phone but would anyone else be suspicious or am I reading too much into it. The past few months his been ridiculous about work so engaged he hasn't a clue what the kids have going on outside or inside of school never asked about my job or life, I even had a mri and few hospital appointments which he completely forgot about and didnt mention. So we had a chat about a month ago saying he needs to prioritise family over work etc but those messages have got me mega suspicious and now I cant relax.