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Anyone elses child (4.5 to) Never stop talking?

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Flimflamfloogety · 15/12/2019 13:13

I am at my wit's end, I generally don't like lots of noise anyway. But my god, it feels like my DS4 NEVER STOPS TALKING. From the moment he wakes up to the time he passed out at night it is a constant onslaught of words. Most of it doesn't even make sense!

I was out shopping yesterday and had to go home, the constant barrage of words (not even questions, just words) made me forget what I needed in the first place.

I always feel really bad as I know he can tell I'm getting wound up but I can't help it. I've asked him what he thinks will happen if he stops but he just shrugs. I've tried talking to him to see if anything is making him nervous but this doesn't seem to be the case. He just seems to be uncomfortable with silence and has this compulsion to fill it with noise. He hardly ever spends any time doing activities alone, either me or DH have to be involved. Even if he is doing something alone the monologue continues. It's as if he has to verbalise every single thought he has, the minute he has it.

Please tell me this isn't just me?!

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Breathmiller · 15/12/2019 13:28

Nope. Not just you.and sorry, but my constant talker is now 8 and a half and still talks non-stop. It is exhausting. It's like everything in his mind just spills out. There is a possibility that he has ADD or ADHD and i think that may be a factor.
I try to tell him that we all have thoughts in our head and sometimes even if I'm quiet Im listening to my own thoughts, and can't do that if I have to constantly listen to his.

Was just on another thread about the child who doesn't ever play by themselves and I think it's all linked.
He can't sit still either and jumps from one thought or activity to another.
I joke that we get about 30 seconds between attention seeking in some way or form but in truth I find it very frustrating and exhausting.
So, sorry I cant give you answers, i don't have any even though I work in a field that should help me find some answers.

But i can hold your hand (silently).

Breathmiller · 15/12/2019 13:29

Apologies for lack of paragraphs 🙂

spiderlight · 15/12/2019 13:32

Mine has not drawn breath since he started talking at 9 months (and before that he was signing like a demon from 6 months). He's nearly 13 now and I'm almost looking forward to the monosyllabic teenage years!

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Sparrowlegs248 · 15/12/2019 13:32

Mine. 4.5 yrs and almost 3. Talk all the time. Separately, or simultaneously. They don't care. Ds1 is the "mummy, mummy, mummy question asker. Then argues with me over the answer. Ds2 will talk to me, to himself, to his brother, the cat, they toys......drives me fucking potty tbh.

SimonJT · 15/12/2019 13:36

I lock myself in my room for half an hour, it saves the tiny bit of sanity I have left.

RandomMess · 15/12/2019 13:38

It improved when they live home Wink

TheCrowFromBelow · 15/12/2019 13:38

Mine has finally stopped!
He is 15 though Grin

Nannewnannew · 15/12/2019 13:46

I’m so sorry OP it must be exhausting. Unfortunately I don’t have any ideas to help you but I did work with a couple of women who never ever SHUT UP! To be honest I dreaded shifts when I was working with them, but at least I could go home and get away from them, you don’t have that option. I’m so sorry, I just wanted to show a bit of empathy. 💐

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Flimflamfloogety · 15/12/2019 15:43

Thank you all. On the one had I'm glad it's not just me, but terrified this may be he norm until he's fully grown Grin

@Breathmiller I may try explaining that we all have thoughts, but we don't say every single one of them. Sometimes we just have to listen quietly to our own thoughts!

Some days I look forward to my commute to work, at least I can get 30mins quiet time in the car!

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JudasHisCarrot · 15/12/2019 15:45

My talker is nearly 5 and has been like this since she first started talking. Her sister (4 next month) is starting to become the same. It is exhausting! So yes, have a silent hand hold from me OP!

taybert · 15/12/2019 15:58

Yup, my 5 year old is like this. Just a constant stream of consciousness interspersed with singing... he’s very cute but it’s exhausting and you realise when you’re somewhere quiet just how noisy he is. I have no advice, but glorious silent solidarity.

Crunchymum · 15/12/2019 16:00

My chatterbox is 5 next month.

She is smart, hilarious, witty and such a happy child but fuck me she talks.... a lot.... every waking moment.

Me "what would you like for breakfast ?"
Her: "I don't know mummy, can you tell me all the things you have for breakfast and I'll do eeny meeny miney mo to decide what I'll have for breakfast"

Why can't she just say porridge? Grin

elQuintoConyo · 15/12/2019 16:02

We call our 8yo the Wafflecopter Grin it was constant thoughts out loud, stream of conscious stuff, questions about birds/dogs/trees/police/water cycle/how farts work....

But in recent times he's been boring us rigid with the Minecraft Monologue. FML.

Crunchymum · 15/12/2019 16:03

I shouldn't moan as DC3 is globally delayed, completely non verbal aged 2 and will need intensive speech therapy, but blimey the almost 5yo is full on.

Yes yes to constant stream of consciousness and add to that always using the most most amount of words in every single situation Grin

AlwaysOnAbloodyDiet · 15/12/2019 16:05

Yes, mine is 5 and never.stops.talking, literally from the moment he opens his eyes in the morning

He and a speech disorder and was pretty much non-verbal until age 3, so I try to remind myself of that and be grateful.

But yes, it's exhausting.

AlwaysOnAbloodyDiet · 15/12/2019 16:05

*He had

Beseen19 · 15/12/2019 16:11

DS is 3 next month and has been non stop talking since he was 10 months old. I remember at his 18 month review them asking me how many words he was using and I didnt have a clue. I sit him in front of the tv at least an hour a day just to give me a break.

We live on the 40th floor and every day in the lift he counts the other people, greets them and talks to them about his day. Hes the sweetest thing in the world but I'm constantly terrified what is going to come out of his mouth.

JudasHisCarrot · 15/12/2019 16:34

Wafflecopter Grin

BriefDisaster · 15/12/2019 16:51

My chatterboxes are 6 and 3.

Worst is when they are both going on about different thing at the exact same time then DH (who also loves to talk) starts too so I have three different conversations to keep track of.

I love it when I work at home and they are all in school/nursery/work. Blissful silence for a few hours.

Of course I then miss them so there is no winning really.

Vercingetorixraktavija · 15/12/2019 17:01

Mine was a selective mute, never talked outside the house, but talked constantly at home. Count your blessings, it's better they talk than they don't. That's what I tried to think when I was dealing with my dc's constant chattering. Grin

Floralmoral · 15/12/2019 17:07

Mine is nearly 7. I started a similar thread when he was 5. He was quite late with his speech (he started properly talking when he was 2) and he hasn’t stopped talking since.
I’m an introvert. I love silence and my own space. Some days my brain hurts and my ears bleed Grin

Trooperslaneagain · 15/12/2019 17:13

Mine had a Little Miss Chatterbox cake for her first birthday.

She's 6 now.

My ears are bleeding.

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Flimflamfloogety · 15/12/2019 17:17

Wafflecopter Grin I'm stealing that!

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NormaLouiseBates · 15/12/2019 17:43

DD starting talking at around 12 months and pretty much hasn't stopped. She's now 24 Grin

In reception class she distracted the other children so much that in desperation one day the teacher put her on a table on her own but she just sat chatting to herself so that didn't work...

OhTheRoses · 15/12/2019 17:48

Yep. My mouth used to hurt from answering his questions. He has a first from Oxford and a Masters in Political Science. He is in Marketing and has joined the LibDems.

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