What would you think to one of your friends, talking to one of their friends about something that’s happened to you ?

[Lardlizard]

Don’t know if I’m being over sensitive
But was talking to my friend about. A certain issue, basically my father in law threatening me
And she said something like x couldn’t believe it when I told her

And it just made me really uncomfortable and I didn’t know what to say

I just kinda closed up

X is one of her friends that I don’t even really know, was a child’s party once so I know her face but that’s it live in different places etc
Have no one in common

Does this seem odd to you ? Or am I being over sensitive

I guess sinister thought why are you telling someone that doesn’t even know me about what’s happened

Next time you may have to make it clear that your news isn't for public consumption (if there is a next time and you decide to confide in her again).

It wouldn't really bother me.

I don’t tell people things I don’t want sharing.

I suppose it wouldn’t occur to me to chat to another friend that doesn’t even know this friend about things that have happened to them
As I wouldn’t think anyone else would be interested really, esp in someone they don’t know
And I just wouldn’t do that

Tbh if it was an interesting story that was relevant to a conversation I may tell another friend, however I wouldn't then report back on what they had said. So yes your friend is being weird here.

I don’t tell people things I don’t want sharing.

^^ this

The only caveat to this would be I'd tell a trusted friend and ask them not to tell anyone. (Obviously if they told anyone that would be the end of trusted friend status).

Do you think I should have said something ?
Like oh why did you tell blah blah ??

I hate it when people do this it feels like a breach of trust to me.

I expect loyalty and my life is not for others to gossip over

If this woman is a stranger to you I don't really see that it is any different in terms of confidence breaking than sharing something on here where hundreds or even thousands can read it. Yes this is anonymous forum but if you don't know the person then it's just as anonymous.

It doesn't sound to me like your friend was 'gossiping' as if she was she wouldn't have told you about it. It was probably more that she wanted another perspective on it as she was concerned. Again like someone sharing on here to ask if there is anything they should do or say.

I think my fiend kinda slipped it out as she looked a bit sheepish after she said it
Like perhaps she realised oh, I’ve dropped myself in it a bit