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Back to work after mat leave

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Deckthehallswith · 13/12/2019 10:02

Due to go back next week and I'm just devastated and not ready to leave ds.

With my first ds, I was ready to go back at the 6 months. This time it just doesn't feel right leaving yet Sad

Did others feel ready to go back? Or not ready, but went anyway and it worked out ok?

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Deckthehallswith · 13/12/2019 10:10

How am I going to stop myself from turning up red eyed from crying Sad

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owl89 · 13/12/2019 16:09

Hi. Just here to offer some support. I'm in exactly the same position. I'm going back in a few weeks after having my 2nd. It's so much harder this time isn't it? We will be fine though Flowers

DoAsDreamersDo · 13/12/2019 18:54

I’ve been back two weeks now. I bawled on my first morning when I dropped DD off at nursery and again when I was outside work in the car. I already feel like I’m back in the swing of things at work now and I’m certainly looking forward to getting paid on Monday for the first time in a few months!

AliceSt · 27/12/2019 06:53

Following as I'm in the same position. Back to work on 13th Jan, DS2 (almost 8 months) will be going to nursery for some of the time and I just feel like he's too little. I constantly want to cry just thinking about it! Help!

Oopsypoopsy2020 · 27/12/2019 07:05

I’m also going back in January after having my 2nd - and it is SO much harder, my 1st was hard work and I was ready to go back!

Do you think it’s because we might never be on maternity again?

AiryFairyMum · 27/12/2019 07:27

Can you take any longer? Even without pay? You know best and if you don't feel ready, then is postpone if you possibly can.

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Deckthehallswith · 27/12/2019 07:29

An update for the new posters:

I went back to work on 17th December. I was a wreck the weekend before and that morning but made it back. It wasn't as bad as I thought once I got there but I'm good at putting on a brave face.

Baby sleeps in the evenings so I changed my work hours from 9 to 5 to 8 to 4. I found this helps as the mornings seem to go faster and in the afternoons I'm just watching the time waiting to get home.

My first evening back, baby stayed awake for an hour doing a fake laugh for me Grin

I'm on Xmas hols now so back at home with him for a week. I'm slightly dreading the 5 day weeks in January so going to see if I can work at home one or two days a week.

@oopsy I think for me it's just because the baby is such a pet and quite clingy

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BillywilliamV · 27/12/2019 07:31

Go back to work, baby will be fine and within a week you'll forget you were ever away.
At least, at this time of year you can blame red eyes on a hangover !

LemonyLion · 27/12/2019 07:41

Oh I feel exactly the same and am dreading it, going back in the next few days. I do think it might partly be the knowledge it's the last time as @Oopsypoopsy2020 says

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