Give me your top tips for getting over someone

[3drawercinemaclub]

I have 4 weeks off work (planned sabbatical).

4 weeks to heal my poor broken heart. 4 weeks to get over someone I work with . I won’t find a new job, doing really well where I am.

So I need your top tips so I can walk back in there in 4 weeks, head held high, confident and completely over him.

I’ve deleted all numbers as a start.

What were you planning to do with this time?

No contact, then minimal contact.

Remind yourself who you were before you met this person.
You survived all of that time not knowing them before you met them so you can survive afterwards.

Make a list of all of their flaws and if you find your self reminiscing have a look at the list.

No idea but I'm in a similar situation, solidarity!

Date someone else.

Getting under someone else wheeeeeey 🍆🍆🍆

Cut all contact. You will heal sooner.

Have a list of things they did that pissed you off or made you realise you wouldn't be happy together -refer to this if you think you miss them.

Eat healthily and exercise.

Like a pp I was just going to put my oh always says the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else

Why do you need to get over him and not under him?

I would honestly recommend cutting contact (which is so so hard to do initially) and especially when they are contacting you but, there is a breaking point I promise when it becomes super easy.

When I was going through the same I allowed myself some time to 'soak in the feelings'. I cried when I wanted to cry. I got angry when I wanted. I let myself feel all the feelings. Then after a few weeks I got really strict with myself and didn't let myself stew. If I felt myself going down a sad path I took myself right off it and thought about something good.

I got myself some kick ass knee high boots. Tanned. Dyed my hair. Bought a gorgeous outfit and reminded myself I was THAT BITCH.

Then I used music. I listen to the Beyonce Lemonade album on repeat. I listened to Ariana Grande - Better off loads of times. Lots of Maroon 5. Music is still my go too. Lizzo is another artist I've been listening too! It helped me no end. Anytime I felt weak I took myself back to the songs that healed me a little.

I promise you @3drawercinemaclub you will look back on this time and laugh about how you feel now.

I promise you it will be so worth it. You are THAT BITCH. Dust yourself off and show everyone you're amazing (even if you fake it for a while).

Time will heal I believe in you!!

Try new things and developing a new routine. For example - instead of sending “good morning” text turn off all notifications and have 1 hour of peace. Instead of phoning him when you leave work,phone your mum (or other significant person) break your old habits and make new healthy ones.

I remember my friend going through a break up and myself and her used to go a walk every monday and Wednesday after work - no phones - she told me she did the same on Tuesdays and Thursdays - leaving her phone (be that going to the shop etc) she soon got to the point of not checking her phone every 10 minutes looking to hear from him and she eventually moved on and you will too

Replace with someone else, do anything and everything to make yourself feel desirable again. Remind yourself every day that everything will be ok.

Move to the other end of the country. Only half joking - you want to put as much distance, time and activity between you and your ex as possible, so that you have no opportunity whatever to rekindle things. Even then it can still take a good year or two to get a grip on yourself and move on. You learn though. Good luck with it.

The two main things are distance and time, sadly. Grit your teeth, detach and ride it out, and one day you'll realise that you haven't thought about him for days.

Eat your weight in chocolate

You will get over him OP

One: Don't pick up the phone
You know he's only callin' 'cause he's drunk and alone
Two: Don't let him in
You'll have to kick him out again
Three: Don't be his friend
You know you're gonna wake up in his bed in the morning
And if you're under him, you ain't gettin' over him

I used to find that reinventing myself, in some small way, was a useful distraction. Get a haircut (although not a Breakup Fringe!!), join a class, take a trip, start an online course - something to focus on that’s just for you. And definitely cut all contact, as hard as that is - any communication just draws out the agony. It’s shit, breaking up but it always gets better.