Not sure how I feel about my pregnancy

[Katie1296]

Hi, not really sure if people will take this in the way im trying to say it but I recently found out I'm pregnant I'm about 6 weeks but I don't feel any bit of happiness at all I did at first but now I just feel like I may of made a mistake and I no that sounds awful but Im just so scared that this isn't for me and I'm going to miss my life. I understand the first few weeks can be challenging with hormones and things but all I can think about is my life will never be the same and don't think I'm cut out for this and just so confused on what to do

What are your circumstances?Are you in a relationship? Would you derive support from that? What about work? If you go ahead with it it undoubtedly will change your life but context is key.

You don't have to go ahead with the pregnancy if you don't want to, it's your choice. Talk to someone impartial, get some counselling, consider your options.

Hi yeah I'm in a relationship he's really supportive and is telling me he will be happy with whatever decision I make but I feel like he's saying that more for me than himself I have a job not the best but I do have one I would have lots of support

Have you told anyone else that you're pregnant? Would your family be happy for you or dismayed?

They would be happy but no I haven't told anyone

Yes, it will change your life. But what is the alternative? Remain childless for ever?

It is your decision, but if it helps I felt like this in the beginning throughout my 3 pregnancies ( even tho I was in a good position for children) and Iv not regretted any one of them.

How will you feel if you wake up tomorrow, pee on a stick and it's negative?

But what is the alternative? Remain childless for ever?

A perfectly reasonable, possible alternative that may well be exactly what OP wants/needs. Would David Attenborough's (insert person of your choice) life be worth less if he hadn't had children?

Anyway. OP, it is very early days ATM so you have some time to think things over. If you contact, e.g. BPAS www.bpas.org/abortion-care/considering-abortion/pregnancy-options-discussion/ then you can have a conversation with a specialist counsellor to work out your feelings on the different options open to you.

Honestly i wouldn't no it's just a hard time one moment I'm ok and sort of happy about it and the next I'm breaking down in tears not knowing what to do or what I want

But what is the alternative? Remain childless for ever?
Well firstly, that's a perfectly acceptable choice. Secondly op can have an abortion and still hopefully have another child later if she wants.

OP if don't make any decisions you can't reverse right now. Just take some time to process it

Hi OP, me and my OH tried for 1 year before I got pregnant so our baby is a very much wanted and planned for baby, I found out early at 3+4 and I remember at around 6 weeks (I was very very sick) thinking have I made the right choice? Am I cut out for this? I would swing between that and feeling complete love towards it!

I'm 13 weeks pregnant now and I am absolutely besotted by our baby I've had 3 scans and cried like a baby each time! I no longer have those doubtful thoughts and am sooo excited to me a mum. I put mine down to hormones, feeling so unwell and lonely from it and even though this is all I've ever wanted I still had those slight thoughts! It's a massive life change and for me as this is my first baby it's taken getting use to seeing and feeling my body change

How old are you? Are you married? Work and financial situation? Who would the support you mention be from?