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Mortified

34 replies

Catinheat · 12/12/2019 13:11

In the gym theres the main weight section downstairs which is mainly filled with men..then you go up and theres some cable machines and a open section for floor exercises. You can see down over the glass panel onto the weight section bit as the glass comes up to your waist...
So when theres not much space I go right up to the glass bit to do floor exercises, this in the past has been covered with paper ...
Yesterday I hadn't noticed that the paper had been taken off. So i got on all fours with my bum facing the glass because the section was pretty full and I didnt want my giant arse facing the rest of the people working out...
After I'd done, a man came up the stairs and winked at me as he walked past..bit weird but ok..I went downstairs, as I went past the weight section one of the older men who regularly says hi to me stopped me and smirked and said..you looked like a cat in heat up there Xmas Sad, I made a face and asked him what he meant..he pointed up at the glass and said I could see everything Shock.
So basically I just spent 20 minutes on all fours and about 20 men downstairs could see me...I'm mortified
My OH says it doesnt matter, plenty of people work out and no one looks at them, but literally I must've looked like I was doing it on purpose.
I need to change gyms dont i

OP posts:
BlackCatSleeping · 12/12/2019 13:16

You were wearing clothes, right?

Gruzinkerbell1 · 12/12/2019 13:16

Haha! Sorry OP but that really made me laugh Xmas Grin

Original poster
Catinheat · 12/12/2019 14:16

Yes I was wearing clothes!
Oh says not a big deal, but I'm so embarrassed. I looked up at where I had been and you literally would have just seen my bum right up in the air.

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Foslady · 12/12/2019 14:28

Sod em - your fitness is more important than their attitudes

ShirleyPhallus · 12/12/2019 14:31

What gross, disgusting men they are. I spend a load of time in the gym each week and no one ever looks at anyone, everyone is way too busy working themselves out to notice (PT and I recently had a long conversation about this)

I am not sure I understand exactly what you were doing to get those reactions?

MyEnormousTurnip · 12/12/2019 14:35

You’ve nothing to be embarrassed about. You were in the gym working out. The vile leery men are the ones who should be mortified.

I thought you were going to say your leggings had split or something.

Spied · 12/12/2019 14:36

Erm.. I'd definitely consider changing gym's.
You'll be known as 'that' womanGrin

GiveHerHellFromUs · 12/12/2019 14:42

What exercise were you doing? Confused

Move countries and change your name. It's the only option.

ExpletiveFairylighted · 12/12/2019 14:44

What a disgusting thing for him to say.

RJnomore1 · 12/12/2019 14:46

How unusual - any gyms I’ve been to the men have been far to focused on their own workout/muscles to notice anything else around them.

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 12/12/2019 14:49

Vile men. Would they do/say that if it had been their daughter up there?

Last night I was in the gym and well aware my top had ridden up during a never ending burpee marathon, so I was seriously shoving my extremely large and fat arse in the face of several men behind me.

Not one of them said a thing - apart from "come on Buzz you can do it!" when I was flagging during some sprints in the next bit of the class. That is how the men in my gym interact with other people

Honeybee85 · 12/12/2019 14:52

You weren’t in the wrong here, he was.
I would report him to the gym’s management as this is sexual harassment.

Women should be able to work out without having to worry about vile men staring at them and what’s worse, making inappropriate sexual comments.
They shouldn’t get away with such behavior and you’re not the one who should be feeling ashamed.

Original poster
Catinheat · 12/12/2019 14:55

I was doing fire hydrants and donkey kicks and the sort and then glute bridges but of course they wouldn't have seen anything with the bridges.
I am self conscious and I look around myself to see if anyones looking at me ( I'm convinced I look a prat as I'm new to the gym) and usually everyone's concentrating on whatever they're doing.
The man who made the cat in heat comment is the only one for sure I suppose but the way he said it seemed like everyone had seen me

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Frenchw1fe · 12/12/2019 14:57

@Honeybee85 are you for real?

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 12/12/2019 14:58

Some men are just disgusting. Plenty of people work out and most of us don't watch each other. I'm one of maybe 6 women at my gym and probably a good 20 to 30 men. Not one of them has ever made crude comment to any of us and the only person looking at my bum is my PT when he's telling me my form is atrocious.

Honeybee85 · 12/12/2019 15:02

@Frenchw1fe

Yes, totally.
I don’t think it’s acceptable to make such comments to a woman who is just working out.

JasonPollack · 12/12/2019 15:04

That's absolutely grim on their part and I would definitely speak to the gym management. Women should be able to work out without being ogled or sexually harassed. There are plenty of teenage girls at my gym, and you can bet that gross old men would say the same thing to them Envy Angry

You have no need to be embarrassed, but they definitely do.

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 12/12/2019 15:05

Yep my gym would kick people out who made lewd comments like that and made members uncomfortable.

Franklymydearidontgiveadam · 12/12/2019 15:06

Men can be utter pricks in the gym at times

Ineedanamechange79 · 12/12/2019 15:12

Absolutely complain to your gym manager. Men at a gym I used to go to were banned for similar behaviour.

Schmoozer · 12/12/2019 15:15

What horrid blokes

Frenchw1fe · 12/12/2019 15:15

I’m sorry you were embarrassed and the men were crass. But sexual harassment as some pp’s have suggested is a bit of an over reaction imo.

Juliette20 · 12/12/2019 15:19

I regularly have my arse sticking out on the mats doing cat/cow and other yoga poses to have a good stretch at the end of a workout. No-one stares or makes any comments and there are often men doing it as well.

They were being inappropriate - not you.

Honeybee85 · 12/12/2019 15:32

I asked Google the ‘definition of sexual harassment’ . This was the first result:

behaviour characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation.

According to this description of what sexual harassment is, making inappropriate and unwanted comments of a sexual nature as a man towards a woman just working out in the same gym as you, definitely is sexual harassment.

Juliette20 · 12/12/2019 15:37

When I was about 20 and started going to the university gym regularly, there was one guy who used to stare at my crotch the entire time I was on the adductor/abductor machine. What a weirdo.