Would you be offended by this

[busyweeks78]

I see a psychiatrist for various mental health problems. When I went to see her on Monday she said she was concerned that I looked underweight. I’m currently struggling with food however I don’t feel she should bring it up and should wait for the patient to talk about it.

If you walked in with a black eye, should she ignore it?
If you walked in distressed, should she ignore it?
If you walked in with vomit down your front, should she ignore it?

Anyone who is concerned about you would ask. She is treating you and should be able to express if she had a concern. Shows she cares about you.

Use her wisely so she can help you fully. Talk about everything. The eating is an issue as you’ve said, she’s not there to just have a chat about whatever you choose and pretend you’re not struggling.

Presumably you're offended because it's a symptom of what's going on and you've not been in control of disclosing it?

She sounds like she's doing the right thing. Sometimes they need to ask the awkward questions.

It is possible she has waited for you to bring it up and if you haven't than she has decided to. She has a duty of care to you - I think it makes her a good therapist that she has brought it up as its a safety issue.

No, I wouldn't be offended @busyweeks78 take her comment in the spirit it was meant. She expressed concern for you. She's on your side.

This is a highly qualified health professional, not someone making a personal remark out of turn.

Also, just to add, I’m overweight. At a recent doctor’s appointment for something not weight-related, he brought my weight up.

I was miffed (at myself for not controlling my weight) but not offended by the doctor. He wasn’t saying it to offend or upset me, it’s part of his remit. Weight is a medical issue.

I'm sorry you have been struggling and well done for working through your difficulties. I have been very unwell in the past so I am with you in that. I now work in mental health.

That is an absolutely standard question asked at an appointment with a psychiatrist. Issues with food are very relevant as they are a symptom of mental illness.

I think it is her duty to ask you this as she is working with you to get better, so she needs to explore all avenues to find the root of why you are feeling as you do.

Try and go with the process and trust her if you feel she is doing a good job. I hope you find resolution to it all x

Thank you it just seemed so blunt the way she brought it up maybe I did need someone else to bring it up

My weight was brought up at a recent medical assessment, it's relevant unfortunately. I know it's a sensitive area.

She’s now requested bloods which she didn’t mention in the appointment.