Me and my partner had our first child 19 months ago and the whole pregnancy and labour was as smooth as anything. No problems at all apart from slight grazing in labour which made it very very painful to use the toilet after birth.
Anyway, since about 2 weeks before giving birth sex hasn't been good for me at all, it's either painful or I actually can't feel anything at all. I'm pregnant again now and still hate sex, the whole pregnancy I haven't had any kind of sex drive, I have to force myself to do it for my OH's sake.
I hate all foreplay and when he touches me I get flinchy and end up pulling my whole body away. The thought of foreplay stresses me out and puts me off the entire thing, which I usually don't even want anyway.
I don't know why though, it's not like I've had anything traumatic happen to make me no longer like it or ever desire it and it's made my relationship difficult because he knows I only have sex for his sake and literally never orgasm or even feel good from it. It's not even that he's bad at it, I just can't get in the mood even while we're doing it.
How do I fix it? I don't really want to go to a doctor as I'm not comfortable talking to a doctor about it.