What age to we have a conversation about Santa?

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Just that, at what age did you have the chat? I assume most children ask themselves and parents just decide it's the right time but my eldest is autistic and I'm not sure he will ask (I'm not convinced he believes either).

My 6 year old asked if he was real because kids at school have said he isn't, I was very blasé and said that I believe he's real because how else would the presents appear in the living room.
She seemed to accept it.

I told her if you don’t believe in Santa, he just doesn’t bring gifts to you anymore

When DD asked, I said that whether you did believe or whether you didn't, it made no difference, the stocking always would be filled as long as you wanted it to be.

She smiled and said, ”thought so”

She's 23 now and still hangs her stocking out.

I'm 37 and my parents never had the chat with me!! My eldest is 9 and she's asked some questions, which I've answered honestly but I'm not planning on having a formal sit down.
Anyway, Santa is real!

Actually, my husband still believes and he's 47.

We did have the chat. It went fine, he's excited about helping.

I guess then need to do it was that a lot on his class were saying he's not real, he still doesn't understand a lot of social cues etc and he doesn't like lies. I honestly thought he didn't believe anyway, turns out he did. But still for the best for our family.

I'm not sure I would have the chat if it had been one of my other children.

My husband was upset when his family started talking about it and then realised the hadn't told him. So I guess we felt it was better to say for numerous reasons. It's what was right for our family.