Dd will now only eat one or two things

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Dd is 14 she has asd and add, she is now stuck on a diet where she will only eat pasta, sausages and cereals.

She will pick at other bits but her main dinner is always the same. She is now refusing to eat anything else. Having meltdowns when other food is out in front of her.

Can anyone help?

Is she able to come to the shops and help choose foods? This turned things round for my son, his issues weren't as extreme but were causing a lot of difficulties. Having more ownership of food choices helped him start trying more foods.

Have you tried taking the pressure off by just letting her choose what she eats? And then maybe breaking down her fears of food by doing some cooking or baking with her for someone else...so she handles food but there is no expectations that she will eat it.

I've had this, I understand!
Just keep on keeping on. Provide what she will eat, keep asking if there's anything else she'll try.
Thankfully DS didn't meltdown about other food being around that was for others- hopefully someone else will be able to help on that. Is there somewhere she can eat without seeing other foods?

Also, maybe report your thread to MNHQ and get it moved to special needs, because there are definitely others out there that have been through this

I let her eat what she wants but there must be no nutritional value in it. Sausages three days a week is shit. But she has it with mashed potato and veg. I buy the fruit that she likes then she goes off it. Then she eats a lot of pasta with tomato sauce and weetabix. Will take her food shopping.

Sounds like ARFID, my son has this.

If she is eating fruit, protein, carbohydrates and dairy, she is not doing that badly, your description of her diet includes all of those. Oh and a bit of fat in the sausages. It's not that bad.

If she's eating mash and veg then she's getting nutrition from those. Maybe get her a variety of sausages, preferably good quality sausages with a high meat content and less fat.

What is in the sauce with the pasta, again its not too bad nutritionally.

And lots of fibre and added vitamins in the Weetabix.

Look up ARFID. There are support groups on Facebook and elsewhere. My son is a selective eater and the usual approach to picky eating doesn't work.

So she doesn't just eat pasta, sausages and cereal at all?!
Sausages with mash and veg is a normal meal by most standards. She's certainly doing miles better than my four year old.

OP, have you done any reading/research into food and people with asd? It’s a massive issue, and you cannot treat it as you would a typical ‘fussy eater’.
My son is 15yo and has aspergers and I swear he has lived on dry bread, fruit and Tesco potato shapes for years and years!
Turing this in to a battle ground and stressing about nutrients is a road to misery for you all.
Educate yourself and then you can help her.
It’s totally normal for them to go ‘off’ foods, to ask for something and then not eat it, to have an incredibly limited diet and to seem to live off crap/air for years.
My son prepares nearly all his food himself,, that’s how he likes it. He never eats any of the ‘family’ food I make, but will not happily sit at the table and eat with us. He still can’t use a knife and fork!
It’s a long road, you have to work together and don’t stress. It makes it all so much worse.

My friends kid only ate a few foods. He seemed to be a poorly child all the time. Turns out it was due to his poor diet. GP referred them to someone who helped them to encourage him to eat. Even holding or sniffing a new food was rewarded immediately. Touching with the tongue only. Then a pill sized bit in the mouth and spat out. Then the same and swallowed. Over a long period of time. Repeated with different foods. Mega praise from all at the family table and star charts etc. Kid is fine now. No longer sickly.

Would your child eat more if a friend were present being a good example? They could eat the food your child likes this week, you then ask the friend what her favourite food is and have that in next time she comes for tea. “Look darling your friend has her favourite pasta would you like to try one bit?” Perhaps your child will try some too?