Re my old friend - he was my 1st boyfriend when we were 14 (we were intimate). Then, when we were mid 20's, he came for a weekend and stayed for 2 weeks. We got back together for a few months (and he talked of marriage) but it was long distance and stopped suddenly. He ghosted me - and I was really really upset.
We're both now 50. About 3 years ago he contacted me re a long lost family member. We now chat every few months. We are both single again now, both have kids (have all met as he put us up 2 days in summer). Anyway, he came up to mine (kids not around) for 2 nights to look at some issues with my house ( he offered - he's a builder).
Night one, we had wine, sat up proper catching up till 2.30am - both leave our bedroom doors open, but both sleep alone. Night two, he says how he always felt ashamed about ghosting me way back when and he wanted to come up and make me happy for a couple of days as he thinks I've had a tough time lately (I have). He says: 'i've always always found you really attractive, I really care about you, I so want to hug you, but I dont want to complicate things for you as we live at opposite ends of country, both with kids, both a bit broke etc, so no promises but: will you keep the door open re us?' We slept together.
He said he'll come back in 8 weeks to do the work for me (he's a tradesman) but was it a line? (I don't think so, he's pretty decent)
I don't want to be clingy but I've only had sex with 2 other people (one of whom my exH) in the last 20 years so it was a huge huge thing for me and if it is never mentioned again I will feel really upset.
He said he'd call tonight. How do I handle it?
Oh, God, have I been a right idiot?