Andahelterskelterroundmylittle ·
07/12/2019 07:34
Hi everyone,
I have a lovely friend of 5 years or more.We had met through work but became friends and I have met her wider family , attended wedding, christenings etc. One of her siblings has gone nc with the family, causing much confusion and heartache. No big drama event just withdrawal over a few months and then complete cut off. No social media, ignore or block any attempt at contact, despite births, marriages and deaths. This absolutely kills my friend who is confused and hurt by siblings actions, as are wider family.
Months later, I'm in different job and nice new working partner reveals she is friend of nc sibling. She shows me picture of nc sibling's new baby and relates a detail of pregnancy to my friend's experience. We lightly discuss the nc situation but its clear new friend has no big information on this, just that nc is very happy and settled in life.
So.. I find that I have been lightly avoiding my friend, as yet unnoticed, as I find it very difficult to look her and her family in the eye knowing I have a link to much missed sibling . I have seen pictures of nc sibling's baby when their extended family hasn't. They would LOVE to see any snippet of info.
Do I remain silent about contact link , protecting my new work friend , nc sibling's privacy and their friendship? Or do I tell my lovely friend of the new link giving them some positive snippets of information? I feel like I'm lying to my friend somehow, knowing this and not saying.
I know my heart that I shall probably say nothing to avoid having a negative impact on anyone. I haven't met up with my lovely friend yet tho' and I don't know how I'll feel .
Wwyd?