Due second baby and scared

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I Can't sleep 38 weeks pregnant with DC2. I hope I don't sound ungrateful as I know how lucky I am when I see people desperately trying to conceive on here.
But I'm so scared of having DC2. I'm scared about going through labour again. Everyone keeps saying you have done it once as if that makes me an expert. We also don't really have many options as to who we can leave DD with and I know she is gong to be upset and I will be so worried about her during labour. I told my DH I will have the baby alone so he can look after DD. But he understandably doesn't want to leave me alone and miss the birth of his child.
I'm also scared of how having a second will affect my relationship with DD. She still needs my attention a lot and I just can't see her being happy to share me right now.
Not sure why I'm writing this I suppose I'm hoping for reassurance and somewhere anonymous say it.

I didn’t want to read without replying. Not sure what to suggest about having someone look after your DD, but I would say that my DS1 would count his brother and sister as his greatest treasures. He has thrived with the ‘responsibility’ that comes with being a big brother and my ‘helper’.
Try not to worry about leaving her too much as she will pick up on it. It’s only for a short while and she won’t come to any harm. Oh and have a present ready for when baby comes home!

Around the time I was due with my 2nd I remember suddenly panicking. After dd1 was asleep I would look at her and think, what am I doing - this is perfect- I am ruining her/our life - what if she thinks I didn't think she was enough. Was also anxious about labour. Needless to say all went well- I actually had a good birth experience and 9 years on have 2 beautiful dds - I wouldn't change a thing. Not sure if last minute anxiety is the norm but I definitely had it.
Good luck, hope baby is with you soon and your family complete.

Honestly take a big deep breath. Inhaleeeee and exhaleeeeee....
Yes, it is scary going from one child to two but it's amazing how much they will play together, and look after each other. When my son was born, my daughter was 2 1/2 to make sure she felt included I would ask her to get me a nappy when changing my son, or help me give my son his bottle.
It will be strange for everyone, but you will fall into routine so quickly. I think you're a little bit overwhelmed by everything which is understandable. You will be absolutely fine, don't stress about your labour, and I hope you have a wonderful midwife. If you're by yourself, the midwives will look after you don't worry. Wish you all the best