I lost my beloved daddy a few years ago, but have been having dreams he still he re, and he's so sad, don't know how to help him and I'm lost what to do, I miss him so much

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In my dream...my brother was there, I said, how is this possible, we went to his funeral.. My brother was also bemused, I sat down with dad, and he was so upset, I didn't know why, I was trying to help, ask him why?i. Some up before I found out, now I'm haunted , want to see a spiritulist, but heard so much that they are frauds, just want some advice, anyone met, seen a real. Good, pscychic?

I think this is probably about your own sadness or something else going on in your life.

Have you tried grief counselling? Maybe you've got stuck in a phase of grief

Pop in to your local spiritualist church I’ve never come across a fake there. They might be able to better articulate his message to you.

so sorry for your loss, I also saw my dad very vividly after he passed and had similar confusion. He also wasn’t very happy. This is 17 years on and he still pops up now and again but seems much happier.

I'm so sorry for you. I lost my younger brother a few years back and I used to see him in my dreams. One of my most vivid dreams I used to be wandering g through an old deserted farm house and I could hear him calling me and crying. I was always searching for him, like a phantom limb.
It was like my brain was still trying to process that he was gone.

When I woke up I would feel his loss anew because my dream was so real and so vivid. I could hear the inflection in his voice, his laugh, the shape of his hands and how he felt when I hugged him tight. I could hear him crying that he wanted to be with us and it haunted me completely.

I would feel bereft all over again and the grief was awful. I too wondered if he was searching for me or if he was lost somewhere, and that absolutely broke me.

But ultimately it was my brain processing the loss and losing someone you love so much is the most traumatic loss. It is a wound to heal from and sometimes it still opens and weeps years later.

I called a psychic in Canada once (she didn't charge me) because I wanted so badly to know where he was, I wanted so badly to know that he was ok. She didn't even know who I was, didn't know my name or where I came from. All she said was "you've been through a terrible loss. Your brother wants you to know he's ok".

I don't know if it was true, I don't care if she was a fake. All I know is that after that point I stopped searching for answers to the impossible.

I still dream about my baby brother. But I can only be glad that my dreams of him aren't those of him in pain anymore. I hear him laugh, I see him smile and it's ok.

All we can do with grief is relay our own experiences of it, in the hope that the knowledge that someone is going,or has gone through the same thing, brings some measure of peace to another.

I know how difficult and how horrendous your pain is and I truly wish you some peace 💐

I would suggest a therapist rather than a spiritualist if you are distressed by dreams about a relative who has passed. That's not something that requires a supernatural explanation, but therapy could bring you some personal closure.