Stuck in a conundrum with Prgncy Revealing to family.

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Hi there,
I wanted to ask for help.
I dont know how to tell my younger sister /my best friend im pregnant.
She has been trying for almost a year and i just started and boom. im pregnant.
This is complicated for many reasons.

1. our other sister recently announced in a heartless way shes pregnant as well (were not as close to her though, and it still stung her a bit).
2. I am the sister that never cared to get pregnant the first 30 yrs of my life, and also mentioned i hope to get pregnant in 8/10 months and not right away.
3. i live on the other side of the continent.
4. i have been on monthly calls ,letting her vent out as she realized she received her period- hearing all the pain and heartache.

I have always wanted to reveal my pregnancy in a cute way, shipping a cracked egg with a message & have her open it while were on facetime together, but im not sure what to do. I am so scared to tell her, and i know shes the first that has to know but im so afraid to disappoint (have had nightmares and sleepless nights), and wonder if i should do it my way or if my way is inconsiderate.
*The message would have been customized to be as sincere as possible of course.
What should i do?

• Lost Sister

Definitely don’t do anything cutesy like sending a cracked egg, it’ll seem like you’re flaunting it and it’ll really upset her when you know she’s desperate to be able to announce it herself. I think you need to just call her and be upfront - be prepared for her to react badly at first, she might need a few days to calm down and process.

Don’t do the cutesy thing for this sister. If you are desperate to do this could you do it with someone else?

You’ll know her best but many people would prefer to hear in writing - text/email so they have time to react privately initially.

NO to the cutesy - do that with other people but not your sis bless her- that would be pretty cruel!

Honestly, just call her (just the two of you) and tell her honestly and frankly that you don’t want to cause her pain but you’ve become pregnant and you hope that once it’s sunk in she’ll be able to be really happy for you but that you understand how hard it must be to hear and you don’t want to hurt her xxx

I would do the following:

Tell her first. Tell her when you know she is at home and safe and when her dp is there. I would call her. Say you have something to tell her and that you want her to know first, she doesn’t have to react appropriately right now or say the right thing and can hang up if she needs a moment and then just tell her. Nothing cutesy and don’t be too over the top with sympathy either as that might make it even harder for her.

Why can’t people just tell people they’re pregnant anymore without some gimmicky, cutesy rubbish.

Do not send a cutesy egg or similar. That's would be totally insensitive. I suggest you pick up the phone and tell her straight. It's not something you can or should shield her from. No doubt she'll be upset in her own way, not for you but for herself. You can't help her get pregnant any quicker and you shouldn't feel guilty for being pregnant yourself. It's tough on her but you're as well to tell her sooner rather than later.

Why can’t people just tell people they’re pregnant anymore without some gimmicky, cutesy rubbish.

This.

Don't do a "reveal". That's not a thing.
Either tell people you are pregnant or don't.

Any kind of cutesy egg or similar reveal would be the absolute worst thing you could do. Please don't do that.

If she's been trying a year and had heartache along the way maybe text/e-mail first, when you know she's at home with her partner and no plans for later in the day. Depending on her reaction you might be able to call later but be guided by her. It just gives her time to react privately first without being blindsided if she's not expecting it yet. Good luck and congratulations!

@GingleJangleScarecrow apparently we still live in a world of fools, trying to break ppl down sadly.
If you dont get something, just dont bother commenting? Hasnt your mama taught you to take advice from ppl who can relate to you? Your mean angry comment isnt appropriate and you sound bitter. Bold angry comment? jesus christ get a therapist/Boxing bag/xanex lol .
My issue was never intended to hurt ppl or get ppl to "shout " at me over their keyboard.
Sorry.

EVERYONE ELSE-
Thank you for your honest opinions/ suggestions. I will listen and do my thing with friends and confront my sister once im ready.

Errrrr. hormones kicking in, then? She was quoting a pp, which is why she had bolded their quote - to refer to it, and so you knew it was a quote. It's an mn convention...
Why Gingle said. Just tell her. 'Reveals' are beyond narcissistic, which presumably is a look you are trying to avoid.

Don't do the cutesy cracked egg revelation with anybody not just your sister. It is very tacky, approach your pregnancy with maturity.

Your last post makes you sound completely unhinged. Honestly, no one will care that much that you're pregnant. Everyone is telling you the "cute" reveal is absurd, because it is.

A cracked egg?? Jesus....just tell folk you’re pregnant.

Absolutely do not ‘reveal’ it to your sister with a cracking egg or anything else. That will destroy her.

Text her. Or call her when you know it’s not too bad a time. Tell her. Acknowledge she will likely find this hurtful. Don’t expect her to speak to you a lot about pregnancy and no matter how tough it gets, never moan to her about sickness, sore boobs, aching, lack of booze.

Then reveal your pregnancy to whoever else you like in whatever way you like. Knowing you’ve been as sensitive as possible to your sister.

Missing the point of the thread, but I cant get my read round sending someone a cracked egg......

Text your sister. She can deal with it in her own time.

Try to avoid using words like 'bitter', 'therapist' and 'xanax' around your sister.

The OP seems aware that a cutesy reveal is not the way forward. Personally I would just text her at a time that is good for her and in a sensitive manner. She hasn't even been TTC for one year yet, she isn't exactly in her 10th year of infertility and I say that as someone who had issues TTC. Congrats OP.

Don’t do a “reveal”, with anyone. They’re awful anyway, and you don’t know others’ circumstances or past experiences.

Just inform people as and when you decide.

You could tell your sister by email or text, early. No need to be apologetic about choices and events in your life.

have always wanted to reveal my pregnancy in a cute way, shipping a cracked egg with a message & have her open it while were on facetime together, but im not sure what to do

I think you've already figured it. Probably not the time to prioritise a novelty reveal over your sister's feelings.
Congrats, btw!

A cracked egg? Is that really a thing?!

Somethings bliddy cracked, that’s for sure........

what the actual fuck with an egg

An egg I don’t get it...

Don’t do anything gimmicky. And tell her sooner rather than later, before friends etc, it’ll hurt more to feel you held it from her.