Ex refusing to return my ipad

[Throwaway2468]

Hello, there is a lot of history of control and abuse from my ex and a lot more to this story but in this latest instalment he has my iPad, has gone through and screenshot text conversations and emails going back months, has accessed all of my passwords and god knows what else. He now refuses to return it.
He got hold of the iPad as daughter has been using it for months and took it to his house. Of course i am kicking myself, I should have realised that there would be access to this information but just didn’t realise. Im an idiot obviously. I don’t want to go to his house to get it as he is aggressive and confrontational. Would the police help, as in, giving him a call and warning him? Sounds stupid written down

It's theft and invasion of privacy...

Too late to stop him taking screenshots he has already taken, but can you remotely wipe it at all to stop any further activity?

And change all your passwords for everything, so that the information he has is of no use. Make it so the iPad is of no value to him from the control perspective, just the irritation of him having a valuable item.

Are you able to remotely disable it? If he hasn't turned off "Find my iPad" you should be able to do it following this:

support.apple.com/en-gb/guide/ipad/ipad8dc8c887/ipados

Make sure you go to iCloud.com and reset the password for the account the iPad is logged in on too if he knows this.

Can you disable it by going to icloud.com/find ?

The police would definitely help with this especially as its related to DV. They'd even just give him a call if that's all you wanted though would probably do a visit too. They certainly babe for me in the past in similar situations with my difficult ex H.

Thanks , I’ve tried to wipe it remotely but it just says ‘pending’ , I’ve disconnected my Apple ID from it although he’s quite good with technology so who knows what he’s taken from it
I believe he plans to use his ‘evidence’ in an upcoming visit to court.