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Totally overwhelmed....

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ThePolishWombat · 06/12/2019 07:02

Anyone else feeling the same?
I’m 11 weeks into being a mum of 3.
I’ve got a 4yo, 3yo and 11wo, and feeling completely overwhelmed by life in general over the last few days Sad
We have been trialling being dairy free with the youngest (middle one has an allergy and I recognised symptoms in the youngest), and have recently done the reintroduction to test if she reacts (as advised by dr and dietician) and it’s clear she’s reacting, so is very unhappy. All I can do about that is cut the allergen from my diet again and just ride it out until it passes.
The 4yo is having a rough time at school (thread in AIBU about that).
3yo has hit that “I’m not going to listen to a word you say” stage and is generally very hard work.
I have some sort of Uber-cold that just will not shift - now beginning the fourth week of feeling like a walking bubble of snot.
The stress of “how the fuck are we going to afford Christmas” after our car died last month.
DH going away for a week for work next week.

I literally want to crawl into a hole and hide today.
Please tell me I’m not the only one feeling like this?! The whole “a woman’s work is never done” sentiment has never rang more true!! Sad

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raspberrymoussecake · 06/12/2019 07:12

Sounds totally overwhelming. I know affording xmas is a real worry but getting kids of that age presents from charity shops will save a fortune and they are too young to know the difference. Also can you order yourself a tesco shop to be delivered and batten down the hatches whilst your partner's away and watch dvds on the sofa. Good luck and hope you feel better soon xx

Rainbowqueeen · 06/12/2019 07:20

Be kind to yourself. You sound like you are doing a great job

Can DH do some prep for you before he goes eg big shop, prepare a couple of meals, deep clean of the kitchen?? Also give you a few hours to yourself this weekend or just you and baby if he is going to be away.

You could use the time to do the Xmas shopping and get that off your mental list. Definitely look at charity shops for gifts and don’t go crazy - kids get overwhelmed and less is more

And remember everything seems easier outside so try and rug up and take them out once a day to wear them out.

Roselilly36 · 06/12/2019 07:24

No wonder you feel overwhelmed. It will get better, it’s really tough when you have a young family. Have you anyone who can lend you a hand so you can rest or have a bath in peace. Things will get easier OP and these feelings will pass. But it completely ok to say how you feel and it’s right that you do. Many congrats on your new baby. And as for Xmas don’t worry, too many people want the “perfect” Xmas but the perfect Xmas is being a family, spending the time together. Good luck and I hope this feeling passes soon for you.

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ThePolishWombat · 06/12/2019 07:25

I’ve done a lot of eBay shopping for Christmas to be honest which has saved a fortune!
I’m so tempted to just sack off school for the 4yo today seeing as though it’s hammering down with rain....but at the same time I figure if I brave the school run, then I’ve only got 2 kids to deal with at hone instead of 3 Blush

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ivykaty44 · 06/12/2019 07:29

Second charity shops for Xmas shopping 🛍 my best Xmas presents were the second hand toys

Shopping online for food

ivykaty44 · 06/12/2019 07:30

Will the 3&4 year old play? I always found more children of that age wasn’t an issue.

ThePolishWombat · 06/12/2019 07:38

@ivykaty44 they blow hot and cold with eachother. They either play nicely together or actively try to murder each other....there appears to be no middle ground Confused

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marmitemayonnaise · 06/12/2019 07:42

I'm totally overwhelmed with just a 2 year old and 10 week old so I'm not surprised you are! I'm struggling to leave the house much as baby hates the pram, car and sling so screams non stop! Bloody nightmare.

Hope you manage a calmer weekend in preparation for next week. One day you'll wake up and realise you're not quite so overwhelmed... at least that's what I'm telling myself!

JenniferM1989 · 06/12/2019 08:04

I get totally overwhelmed with one 3 year old, a cold and a part time job 😂 so you have my sympathy here! This cold thing is not a cold is it? I've been feeling ill for a week now and colds don't usually last that long for me! I seem to feel ok one day and worse the next 🙄.

The only way to feel better is to regain sanity I think. A long bath, an early night and waking up before the kids to enjoy a coffee and silence. That's what I'm doing right now. My DS is still asleep, will probably wake in about 5 minutes so I'm having a coffee in peace and browing mumsnet while I wipe my nose for the millionth time!

JaneCope · 06/12/2019 08:55

I was a similar situation and it is really tough. I remember thinking I was fine, then getting to the point when the youngest was 6 months old and realising that I really hadn’t been (so tired, intolerant of any “dissent”, shouting).

Forgive yourself, start afresh each day, celebrate the small successes, don’t think too far into the future, predict and prepare for flashpoints, take your time, tell people you are struggling.

ThePolishWombat · 06/12/2019 09:11

@JenniferM1989 the getting up before the kids for some peace sounds like heaven.....but the cosleeping newborn throws a spanner in those works!! I don’t want to wake her before she’s ready....but if I dare get out of bed she’s awake like a shot

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