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Feelings for my child's teacher...

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Wannakisstheteacher · 04/12/2019 20:09

OK. So I namechanged. Obviously!!

In September DS got a new teacher. She seemed lovely, young ish, keen, actually could teach. So I was really pleased for DS as he's always found school really hard. I enjoyed talking to her very briefly each day.

Them last week it hit me like a brick in the face that I have feelings for her. She's 28 I'm 35. I have a husband and 3 children. I've never so much as kissed a woman. I don't know what's happened to me. I feel physically sick when I see her from the adrenalin.

Help me. I've decided it's a mid life crisis. Clearly nothing will ever happen. How do I move on from this?

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Wannakisstheteacher · 04/12/2019 21:44

merryhouse, she is 7/8 years younger than me. But actually I do think it's partly what you say. She is just so nice. She seems like she's one of those nice all the way through people, where as I definetly have a deeper part of me which isn't that nice.

Plus DS has had a string of crap teachers so I'm just so happy he's finally got one who gives a shit and is actually teaching him.

So I know, rationally, it's those feelings all confused. And yet I see her and the voice in my head says "Jesus Christ you are so beautiful, I think I love you".

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Wannakisstheteacher · 05/12/2019 14:46

OK, so this morning I went for the head down, look at my shoes, push DS in the door and run away approach. Attempting to the same in 15 mins. I think everything will be fine as long as I just never look at her again.

@PeterRouseTheFleshofMankind you are safe as long as you don't teach Y2 at a Catholic school... Well from me at least Xmas Wink

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FestiveFavourites · 06/12/2019 13:32

Stop jeopardising your child's schooling and get over this ridiculous crush. You are placing way too much emphasis on the way someone looks at you. She's just being professional and friendly, she doesn't want to get down and dirty with you. Get a grip.

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Wannakisstheteacher · 06/12/2019 14:23

@festivefavourites, sorry, what exactly was the point in that reply?

I'm perfectly well aware she doesn't have the same feelings.

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FestiveFavourites · 06/12/2019 15:27

And the point of this self-indulgent thread is what? You're crushing on a female teacher and you don't realise you're being creepy and inappropriate? You get angry when someone points out your behaviour is absurd? Oh. Right.

No-one else is interested, look at the last time you posted and the fact that no-one else replied Grin No-one gives a shit.

AlwaysOnAbloodyDiet · 06/12/2019 15:35

'And the point of this self-indulgent thread is what?

Well, she can hardly tell anyone in RL. Imagine waiting at the gate with another mum... 'Do you have a crush on Miss X too'? Xmas Confused

I say enjoy it and stop overthinking it!

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Wannakisstheteacher · 06/12/2019 15:55

@festivefavourites you replied Xmas Hmm

I always think in life there are 2 types of people. Those who offer someone a hand when they are down and those who kick them. What I hugely respect is that you are so openly the latter.

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dangerrabbit · 06/12/2019 16:01

Have you ever been attracted to women before or is this the first time?

What is your relationship like with your husband? Are you still attracted to him?

Bluntness100 · 06/12/2019 16:06

I'm definitely not gay

Well, no, but if you fancy her as you specifically say you do, then you're likely bi sexual at least.

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Wannakisstheteacher · 06/12/2019 16:06

This is the first time. DH works away, he's been away for 8 nearly 9 months so yes, clearly that's an element too.

We've just moved to a new area so I don't really know anyone either. God, written down it sounds so pathetic. I'm clearly lonely so have latched onto the first person who I've had a proper conversation with. But I can't help it, I do just feel a really strong attraction to her.

But no, now I realise how it's in fact 'creepy' to be attracted to someone I will just continue to avoid her as much as possible so I don't somehow ruin DS's education with my thoughts.

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Wannakisstheteacher · 06/12/2019 16:08

@Bluntness100 I totally accept that. I only mean I'm definetly not gay as in attracted solely to woman.

She is the first and so far only, woman I've ever been attracted to.

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Selfsettling3 · 06/12/2019 16:10

I imagine it’s her professionalism/authority that you admire. What’s going on in your life? What can you do to make it more exciting?

Selfsettling3 · 06/12/2019 16:11

Just seen your latest message. Focus on making your own life more interesting.

KirstyHasLeft · 19/09/2020 22:11

@Wannakisstheteacher - how is it going? Have you got over her? Any updates?

Emsy999 · 30/11/2020 12:29

Hi @Wannakisstheteacher

How's things going??!

I actually could have written this myself.
I've discovered that I am bisexual so I'm not too surprised at these feelings.
My daughter's teacher is lovely! A really lovely person - calm, compassionate and cute 🤭
I tried to send you a PM but couldn't.
Just checking in... Hope you're ok! how's

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