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Help me write a grievance please!

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BillywigSting · 04/12/2019 16:08

Apologies in advance if this is a bit long!

I recently started a job as a domiciliary carer (caring for vulnerable adults in their own homes). Started in August.

Everything was fine until one particular client who's behaviour had been a bit 'eyes on stalks starting down my top' progressed to making comments that he thought I couldn't hear (he's deaf as a post) but were of a very sexual nature. This understandably made me feel very uncomfortable.

This happened on a number of occasions and was reported to my line manager via email and on the phone both in a call and via text.

Long story short, I have to repeatedly request for this client to be taken off my rota (done weekly).

When I first requested that they take his calls off me my manager said what I was asking was impossible, but she very quickly changed her tune when I mentioned duty of care to provide a safe working environment and this was not it. It's seriously stressing me out and has had me in tears more than once. I'm even a bit misty eyed just writing this!

I don't even know where to begin. Their grievance procedure is very ambiguous, saying try to sort it out informally first (which I have done via phone calls texts and email) then write a letter.

I'm in a union who I've already called. They won't help me write a letter but will provide representation if I need it later down the line.

I've already applied to a couple of other jobs because the stress of having to battle to get this man off my rota is making me feel physically sick.

Please help me wise mumsnetters!

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Erinaz · 04/12/2019 16:44

Could you not say to him to stop because im sure he probably does this to all his carers . The manager could write a letter to him to make him aware its not tolerated. Or you could ask to work with another member of staff when visiting him .

AppleKatie · 04/12/2019 16:46

I would write a very short letter OP.

Mention the words ‘duty of care’ ‘safeguarding’ and ‘sexual harassment in the workplace’.

If he upsets you then you shouldn’t have to go. Regardless of whether or not he says it to all the carers Hmm

HotPenguin · 04/12/2019 16:51

How about this

Dear Boss

I am writing to raise a formal grievance about the behaviour of Mr Creepy and requesting that you remove him from my rota

I previously contacted you by phone on x date and by email on y date to complain about Mr Creepy's behaviour, which includes staring down my top and making frequent sexual remarks which I find offensive and intimidating. This behaviour occurs every time I visit Mr Creepy and has left me feeling upset, anxious and scared for my safety when working with him.

I would like you to remove this client from my rota so that I do not have to experience this continuous sexual harassment while working.

I look forward to hearing from you as soon as possible about how this will be resolved.

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BillywigSting · 04/12/2019 18:10

I have already mentioned safeguarding, duty of care and sexual harassment to the bosses but they appear to not give a crap.

I've also mentioned that I have spoken to acas and would be raising a formal grievance if the situation is not resolved.

Lo and behold it has not yet been resolved! This started mid October and I think I have been very reasonable with them so far. I haven't even asked for them to replace that particular call (we get paid on a call by call basis) just to take it off me.

I think I'll write something along the lines of what penguin wrote

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