Anyone else struggle with maintaining friendships?

[mommathatwearspink]

I haven’t managed to maintain many friendships through life at all... I’ve lost contact with school / college friends due to leaving the area and never really get close to many people. Even when I seem to strike a friendship, I struggle to maintain it... there’s not much time to meet with friends as I have such a busy life. I’ve never been invited on a hen do, been someone’s bridesmaid or anything like that.

What are you busy doing? I'm a single mum and work and I make seeing my friends a priority otherwise I'd never speak to another adult except men that work for me and the cashier at Tesco! You have to be proactive. Have a dinner party, meet someone for brunch on a weekend, volunteer to run the kitchen at rugby club... you meet people, if you think they seem interesting call them and meet up! Look up old friends and call them asking how they are and interested in getting together? You'll get some 'rejections' but hopefully by showing an interest in your friends old and new you'll soon have a good social crowd.

I’m the same since becoming a mum I’ve found it hard to keep up with my friendships. A lot of my friends were work colleagues, who I don’t really see now and haven’t kept in touch. My friends outside of work don’t have children.

I've not got the dedication type skills. In an introverted way, friendships can be so demanding of time and thought . I do have friends, but I'm not a gardener of friendships 😁I have also contemplated a few MN posts about recently where OPs are given the advice " surely you wouldn't throw away a 10/15/20 year friendship for that!" ... Well I absolute would- every OP case. Sometimes in my life , when there's an issue, I struggle to carry on as before . It's over. They're chucked.

Aww. Are u ok with this ? If not do u open up to people? It's hard to get close to people if you dont show a vulnerable side x