48 hour rule - am I being a mug?

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DS goes to nursery four days a week. He threw up on Friday night, Saturday morning, Saturday evening and Sunday morning. Alternative childcare arranged for today. He seemed fine, though tired and off his food. Planning to send him in tomorrow. Tonight he was very badly sick again, so no nursery tomorrow. I told a friend, who said he'd probably just eaten too much and to send him in if he doesn't have a temperature. DS is obviously not well (had eaten very little all day) and rarely has a temperature with D&V. I'd be quite annoyed if other parents disregarded the 48-hour rule (though clearly some do, as DS is off all the bloody time). Am I mug for sticking to the rules? Friend's nursery is a bit more flexible and her child is rarely ill anyway, but surely she's wrong to suggest sending a child in 12 hours after vomiting? It was a proper vom too

No, you’re not being a mug. You’re sticking to the guidance which is there for good reason.

That's a lot of throwing up!
I wouldn't send my DS in, he is obv not well at all.
He needs to rest, not got to nursery.
Surely he'd be more prone to pick up something else whilst his defensive are down too!

No you are doing the right thing. 48 hours is the rule in the school where I work and also in my DS school. It is unbelievably selfish to send your child in to spread their germs, these sorts of bugs spread so easily.

No you aren't being a mug, you are being sensible. He'll get better quicker at home than at nursery. If you were to send him he's likely to be sick there too.

Earlier in the year DD was ill Thursday and Friday, fine over weekend so returned to school Monday and was sick on the lunch room floor. Then off Tuesday- Thursday. Kind enough to share it with me too.

@Cuddling57 This was not even that bad by his standards Before we introduced solids he could easily throw up every single feed...

Thanks all! I'm a goody two shoes/ stickler for the rules, so thought I was maybe being silly and not realising everyone breaks these rules. Hadn't even thought about him recovering sooner at home.

I’d see where your friend was coming from if your DS had overdone it at say a birthday party and threw up once with no other signs of illness. In your case he’s clearly genuinely unwell and it would be best for him to be at home until he’s better, not to mention the risk of other kids catching it. Your friend is crackers to suggest he could go in.

I have one child who is sick once in the night after eating too much. Another who is sick when they have a snotty nose. If it’s one sick and otherwise fine, no temp, feel ok etc then I’ll send them in. In your situation he’s clearly v unwell and needs to stay at home.

Jesus, no, you're right to keep him home, for his sake and the sake of the other kids. I'm so fed up with mine catching stuff at nursery.

You’re quite right to keep him off for the full 48 hours if he has a sick bug.
He does sound tired, but I wonder why he’s being sick all spread out - there’s a whole day between being sick in some cases? ”This was not even that bad by his standards. Before we introduced solids he could easily throw up every single feed...”

• sounds like he’s a bit like our DS1 who was champion at the choke vomit. Nursery used to ring us up all the time saying he’d been sick - I’d ask if he was eating at the time, and he always was. He’s settled down now thankfully, took at least until he was 3 not to choke on his food and not to be sick when he had a bad cough. That’s not your DS, is it?

He does vom when he has a bad cough. He very rarely chokes on his food although he occasionally gags. I think it's genuine vomiting. We figured out a little while ago that processed dairy at night makes him sick (and wouldn't keep him off nursery if it was that). Tonight was proper spewing, came out in three bursts. Poor mite was sitting on his bedroom floor crying with a puddle of sick in his lap On Friday night it happened while he was asleep. Might take him to the GP sometime if he manages not to be ill for long enough

Aw I hope he feels better soon, definitely needs to stay at home and rest.

I used to work with children and lost count of the amount of times we would have children throw up and we would ring parents to inform them and they would say "yeah they were up all night last night being sick" honestly parents send their children in to nursery with so many illnesses it's really frustrating. I also have friends who have said they would take their child out to a play centre in the afternoon when their children had been being sick all morning. I just don't understand how people think this is okay!

Much better today and didn't give him milk at bedtime (had it around 4pm instead). Still a bit off his food but no vomming!!!

@stripes416 the bloody arrogance of some people! I wouldn't mind, as long as they mopped up my child's sick and paid for the emergency childcare! We all have jobs to go to, that is kind of the point of nursery. FFS. Rant over Was there anything you could do against parents like that?