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Anyone here predicted their child's LGBT sexuality correctly or incorrectly?

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BeepOpsiePie · 02/12/2019 22:49

I hope this is not a horribly insensitive question, and I wasn't sure which topic to put it in! it's just something I find myself wondering. I know I've seen on threads before that people guessed from a young age that their child would be gay, a long long time before the child would discover it themselves.

I guess what I'd be really interested to know is how many people guess that their child would be gay when they're say 3-10 years old and later turn out to be incorrect. If being incorrect about that prediction is equally common, that would imply the ones who "correctly" guessed just chanced upon the right guess, rather than there being any real correlation between young children's behaviour and their future sexuality.

Surely you can't really predict someone's future sexuality based on old fashioned stereotypes like boys being "camp" and girls being tomboys etc. But then again some gay people are proud of the fact they had those personality traits from a young age. Should we avoid having these hunches about our children's sexuality, or is it normal to wonder, even though it should make no difference to how we raise or love them? Interested to hear some MN opinions!

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ThisMustBeMyDream · 02/12/2019 22:55

I have a hunch about my youngest. No idea why. I just think he will be gay. I'd never say it or show it. He is 4. I love him exactly as he is. He's a darling little soul.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 02/12/2019 22:56

You mean LGB? TRANS has nothing to do with sexuality.

ThisMustBeMyDream · 02/12/2019 22:56

I can't put my finger on why I feel he might be btw. He is definitely in tune with his feminine side. But equally, I don't do gender sterotyping so he is getting the chance to be what he wants without prejudice (from me at least!).

StillMedusa · 02/12/2019 23:22

My eldest DD is gay (married her wife last year).. I had no idea. Ok she didn't like dresses as a kid..and still doesn't particularly , but she is a delicate framed willowy woman with long blonde hair... so didn't fit my perceived stereotype of a lesbian!. She didn't 'come out' until she was 19 although she had been sure for a very long time.

Then again I have worn a dress 3 times in the last 30 years and I'm not gay Grin

Youngest is also probably gay..he's 22 but he has autism and I think is unlikely to ever have a relationship, but if he did it would almost certainly be gay. He has no interest in girls whatsoever and has has male celebrity obsessions.
He is also a bit 'camp' and has been from toddlerhood on!

My other two are most definitely heterosexual.

My four were all raised the same, and in the expectation that we would be happy whoever they loved as long as they were in a kind loving relationship, so I don't think we shaped them in any way... they were born who they are!

whattodo2019 · 02/12/2019 23:46

I often wonder if my DS age 12 is gay. He's very sensitive and shows some camp body language however he is army mad! He hadn't ever shown an interest in girls toys etc. I think it's his sensitivity which makes me feel he might be.
Although I have friends who are gay and I certainly don't consider myself as homophobic I am not too sure how I would cope if he did come out....
Only time will tell I guess

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