I raised my son alone as a single mum. it was hard and many
sacrifices were made but it was worth the struggle to see him grow up and be a hard working man. he is now 26. I moved to Scotland for work and he travelled the world with his career. Recently the pull of home has made me start again and move closer . he has a girlfriend and they live together 300 miles away from where i am and her family are. All good so far. a month ago he called asking if i could loan him 1300 pounds as he wanted to get rid of his car he wasn't using . I said no problem and i would go with him to sort it out. He said he would be home this weekend gone to sort it, he said that his girlfriend and her family were going to Chatsworth House to see the Christmas market if I wanted to go. I said i would love to but priority had to be to sort out his car and as long as it didn't clash with that I would love to go. The message was very clear. Spin onto this weekend he then rang me Friday in a panic cause his wages had got mixed up and they had underpaid him £400. I said dont worry i would loan it to him till the new year,not to worry about presents for the family just make sure he got his girlfriend a nice one. I didnt hear from him till 5pm on Saturday night asking me to pick him up so he could see my new house and also see his nan before she went on holiday. he got in the car and said he had a present for me . it was shortbread from Chatsworth. I said his girlfriend didnt have to do that which he replied she didnt I did. I was shocked that they had all gone without me. her mum, sisters and him. i couldn't speak to him. when we got to my mums she did say something . she said "well I thought your mum was going? " his reply was "Well yes but she was busy". I said "Doing your car but you never came or answered my messages " he then just swept it under the carpet. My husband said to say something so i sent a message today telling him why i was upset. I also asked the question buzzing around my head which is are you ashamed and embarrassed of me in any way and if so please just say . He has read it but hasn't replied Her family own a large house, privately educated and very well off. I just want to be included and thought of. I dont push myself forward or interfere and always think of them both . Even at 26 and 24 i bought them bough advent calendar (as a joke) and am taking her to see The king and I for Christmas. Am i being unreasonable ?